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five good things

Thank you to everyone who commented on my last post. ♥ I needed to talk (even if I was struggling to put it all into words), and you all really helped me feel better about things.

In the spirit of trying to practice kindness and put forth a positive outlook, and as counterpoint to that post, I now present a list of five things that are making me happy right now this very second:

1. I go to Atlanta a week from tomorrow to visit scarletts_awry, and we get to spend the long Presidents Day weekend together.

2. I'm reading Truman Capote's account of his visit to Russia with the touring company of Porgy and Bess in 1955, which somehow I've skipped over before in his collected essays, and it's wonderful.

3. My shows are all awesome right now. Except for Mad Men, but only because it's between seasons and isn't on at the moment. I'm sure it will be awesome when it starts back up in the summer, especially after the extended Crowning Moment of Awesome that constituted the season finale.

4. Trader Joe's Indian meals. So hot and spicy and good, especially with their naan bread.

5. Daylight savings time will be kicking in soon.

There. Five happy-making things, and a nice reminder that there are many good things in my life, despite the occasional bouts of crappiness.

(I should really try doing thinkpositive30 again.)
stella & hawkes we're stronger together


My scarletts_awry gave me Blue Beetle and Booster Gold action figures for my birthday. I cannot adequately express how incredibly awesome this is.

I'm about to go set them up and make them hold hands.

We got our invitation to the wedding today too, and I say "we" because even though it was sent to my place, it was addressed to both of us, and that just feels -- and looks -- very couple-y and official, and makes me very happy.

In other news:

My surefire, go-to online cheer-up method these days is Maru, who has both a YouTube channel and a blog. For those of you not familiar with the awesomeness that is Maru, he's a rather rotund Scottish Fold cat who lives in Japan with his owner/housemate, and who has a penchant for flinging himself into boxes, especially if the boxes are too small for him to comfortably fit into, and having other adventures on his travels around the house. He's ridiculously adorable.

(Yes, I know, cats on the internet. But Maru is special! As usual, xkcd sums it up nicely.)

It's been raining in L.A. all week, and I don't hold with this water falling from the sky nonsense, not one little bit. No sir. On the bright side, this did prompt me to finally buy a pair of new boots, which are big and black and fuzzy. More importantly, they keep my feet warm and dry, and consequently I adore them.
johnny cash

wow. wow wow wow

Okay, I was going to reply to comments tonight, but I'm falling over from exhaustion, so I think I'm going to crawl into bed soon and reply to them tomorrow, BUT I just have to post quickly to say this:

scarletts_awry just bought her plane ticket to L.A. for the end of April. At which point we will be going to my friend's wedding, and, more importantly, going apartment shopping.

I just got all emotional on the phone (in a good way) about how we're really truly doing this. Which I knew, obviously, but. Dudes. We are really truly doing this.

I don't know what I did to get so lucky.
calvin & hobbes

book stuff

I'm only three chapters into Under the Dome, but I'm enjoying it thus far.

(The reason I'm only three chapters in is because it's hardcover and over 1,000 pages, and thus weighs a ton, and there's no way I'm lugging it to work with me to be my commute/lunchtime book. I'm only reading it at bedtime, and taking other things to work with me.)

If you want to see what else I'm reading, have read recently, or plan to read in the near future, check out my GoodReads account, and if you're over there too, friend me if you're so inclined.

...Or post here and tell me about what you're reading, have read recently, or plan to read in the near future.

Health report: I'm still congested, but still feeling better overall. As one of my co-workers pointed out, today was the first time since we all got back from vacation that I didn't spend the entire day with a scarf wrapped around my neck. Progress.
stella in sunglasses

good vs. bad

The good: I will be going to visit scarletts_awry five weeks from today! This isn't a moving-related trip, but a short vacation that I'm taking over Presidents' Day weekend. We will go out for sushi and listen to music and go to the place where I can have grits for breakfast and go shopping, and it will be awesome.

The bad: I have Captain Trips beriberi the Martian Death Flu a respiratory ailment of undetermined origin. I have had this for a good ten days now, since I got back from New York, and even while I was still back East over the holidays, I was beginning to feel rundown and like something was coming on. At which point I began obsessing over not wanting to get sick and taking large doses of Vitamin C and various cold medicines, none of which did me a damn bit of good.

It's not even the kind of full-blown cold in which one goes through a box of tissues in a day or is constantly coughing. I do have an occasional cough, but mostly I'm just constantly congested and my throat hurts and I'm feeling generally Not Well. Which, from talking to other people who I know are sick right now, seems to be how this year's post-holiday bout of ick is manifesting itself. And I am done with it.

The good: My manager recommended yesterday that I take Tylenol PM before I go to bed, and he is a freaking genius. Not only did it let me sleep for more than a few hours at a stretch, but I felt better today than I have since I got back to L.A. Still congested -- the ick isn't gone -- but better.

When I woke up this morning, I did feel, a little bit, like tweety birds were circling my head, but it's totally worth it.

The further good: the library sent me a notice that they got in my hold copy of Stephen King's Under the Dome, which I will pick up on Saturday. I've been disappointed by his work more often than not in the latter half of his career, but I loved the short story collection Just After Sunset, so I remain hopeful.
leverage sophie kiss

new year's greetings

Happy 2010!

I've been away for awhile, and I hope everyone is well.

The big news around here, as those of you who also have my scarletts_awry on your flists will have seen earlier today, is that she's moving to L.A. in about six months, and we're moving in together.

We are both very happy about this.

Oh, and we've been officially in a relationship for going on 15 months now.

I did my best to get scarletts_awry hooked on Mad Men (which really is one of the best shows ever), a plan that I'm pleased to report was successful, and now we're both eagerly looking forward to the 4th season premiere sometime this coming summer.

And so I'm hopeful and optimistic about what the new year will bring.
stella & hawkes


So, this happened. And it really sucked.

I am beyond grateful that scarletts_awry is okay and that the accident wasn't any worse than it was. That's the important thing here.

But being 3,000 miles away from the person you love after she's been in a car accident is a horrible, helpless feeling.
leverage nate & sophie sophie knows the

life & such

Hey, y'all.

Real life continues to interfere with my best intentions to post more regularly. The main issue is that, along with being busy at work, I'm struggling with some insomnia/sleep issues that are doing a very good job of draining my physical and emotional energy.

But I'm working on it. I still want to write an entry about "Yahrzeit." Maybe not quite a review, but some thoughts, mostly about Hawkes.

And in happier news: Leverage S2 premiere in four days!! Nate and Sophie and Hardison and Parker and Nate's hats. I am ecstatic.

Finally, I have two Dreamwidth invite codes to offer. Comment here if you'd like one! First come, first served.
stella & hawkes

happy trip things

For Labor Day weekend, I am going to Seattle to visit gin200168!

Then, not quite four weeks after that, I am going to go visit scarletts_awry for the second time this year!!

I get to see my good friend and my honey all in the same month.

And then next spring scarletts_awry is coming to L.A. again so that we can attend the wedding of another good friend of mine, which is exciting because it feels like a very Official Couple kind of thing to do.
stella & hawkes we're stronger together

June 12, 1967

42 years ago today, on June 12, 1967, the United States Supreme Court ruled in the matter of Loving v. Virginia, declaring Virginia's ban on interracial marriage unconstitutional and ending all racial marriage restrictions in the U.S.

On June 12, 2007, Mildred Loving issued a statement:

Loving for All

By Mildred Loving

Prepared for Delivery on June 12, 2007,
The 40th Anniversary of the Loving vs. Virginia Announcement

When my late husband, Richard, and I got married in Washington, DC in 1958, it wasn’t to make a political statement or start a fight. We were in love, and we wanted to be married.

We didn’t get married in Washington because we wanted to marry there. We did it there because the government wouldn’t allow us to marry back home in Virginia where we grew up, where we met, where we fell in love, and where we wanted to be together and build our family. You see, I am a woman of color and Richard was white, and at that time people believed it was okay to keep us from marrying because of their ideas of who should marry whom.

When Richard and I came back to our home in Virginia, happily married, we had no intention of battling over the law. We made a commitment to each other in our love and lives, and now had the legal commitment, called marriage, to match. Isn’t that what marriage is?

Not long after our wedding, we were awakened in the middle of the night in our own bedroom by deputy sheriffs and actually arrested for the “crime” of marrying the wrong kind of person. Our marriage certificate was hanging on the wall above the bed. The state prosecuted Richard and me, and after we were found guilty, the judge declared: “Almighty God created the races white, black, yellow, malay and red, and he placed them on separate continents. And but for the interference with his arrangement there would be no cause for such marriages. The fact that he separated the races shows that he did not intend for the races to mix.” He sentenced us to a year in prison, but offered to suspend the sentence if we left our home in Virginia for 25 years exile.

We left, and got a lawyer. Richard and I had to fight, but still were not fighting for a cause. We were fighting for our love.

Though it turned out we had to fight, happily Richard and I didn’t have to fight alone. Thanks to groups like the ACLU and the NAACP Legal Defense & Education Fund, and so many good people around the country willing to speak up, we took our case for the freedom to marry all the way to the U.S. Supreme Court. And on June 12, 1967, the Supreme Court ruled unanimously that, “The freedom to marry has long been recognized as one of the vital personal rights essential to the orderly pursuit of happiness by free men,” a “basic civil right.”

My generation was bitterly divided over something that should have been so clear and right. The majority believed that what the judge said, that it was God’s plan to keep people apart, and that government should discriminate against people in love. But I have lived long enough now to see big changes. The older generation’s fears and prejudices have given way, and today’s young people realize that if someone loves someone they have a right to marry.

Surrounded as I am now by wonderful children and grandchildren, not a day goes by that I don’t think of Richard and our love, our right to marry, and how much it meant to me to have that freedom to marry the person precious to me, even if others thought he was the “wrong kind of person” for me to marry. I believe all Americans, no matter their race, no matter their sex, no matter their sexual orientation, should have that same freedom to marry. Government has no business imposing some people’s religious beliefs over others. Especially if it denies people’s civil rights.

I am still not a political person, but I am proud that Richard’s and my name is on a court case that can help reinforce the love, the commitment, the fairness, and the family that so many people, black or white, young or old, gay or straight seek in life. I support the freedom to marry for all. That’s what Loving, and loving, are all about.