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{tv} Tina Fey's genius is enviable

0585 [29 and some big news]

Day 6 - Write 30 random facts about yourself.

1. I have a very difficult time maintaining consistency.
2. I love the technology that has allowed frozen food companies to replicate the taste and texture of deep-fried foods in frozen, bake-able foods like onion rings and General Tso's Chicken.
3. I read Confessions of a Pioneer Woman regularly and absolutely adore Ree Drummond's narrative and photography style(s). I read her blogs so much that I sometimes hear her "voice" narrating things that happen in my life. Or, sometimes she talks to me. Is that weird?
4. I inherited my bone structure, my assertiveness, and my bi-monthly migraines from my mother.
5. Also, we (my mother and I) have a very similar haircut (short and spiky) and our voices sound very much the same.
6. From my dad I inherited my stubbornness, my bluntness, and my blue eyes.
7. I think the best movies were made in black and white, and that many of them were made outside of the United States.
8. I'm a non-political philosophical/theoretical Marxist (with the clause that any successful implementation of Marxist theory must take place within a theocracy).
9. I like to use big words and technical jargon.
10. I have a special adoration for the beauty of words; even when writing, I consider it of great importance that the words I'm stringing together have a good sound and rhythm to them.
11. Ever since I was a toddler, I've found it very difficult to not move my body to the rhythm of a song.
12. I have only been really physically attracted to my husband since we have been married. When we were engaged, I was attracted to other men, but after we said our vows, Mike is the only one who makes my blood pressure rise. And I didn't set out to do that; it just happened to me.
13. I believe in God, the Father, the Almighty Maker of Heaven and the Maker of Earth, and Jesus Christ, His Only Begotten Son, our Lord.
14. I believe in the Holy Spirit, the holy catholic (that means complete / whole, not just one denomination) church, the communion of saints, the forgiveness of sins, the resurrection of the body, and life everlasting.
15. I love reading the words of texts like The Apostles' Creed and agreeing emphatically with their words. I like that connection to the people who came before me.
16. My main educational goal is to read Dostoevsky's Crime and Punishment in its original language (Russian), and to write some sort of dissertation on it.
17. I dropped out of school one semester before I graduated with my Bachelor's degree so that I could adjust to being married and get my priorities of God and my marriage to the forefront of my life.
18. I don't regret #17 at all.
19. I dislike being in a room that does not have adequate lighting unless I am sleeping in it (this includes movie theaters / home theaters).
20. I have never wanted to be drunk. I probably never will be drunk. I'm okay with that.
21. Knowing my own selfish and wretched tendencies, I try never to judge anyone that I know. Instead I put a lot of effort into loving people and making them feel good about the good things about themselves (i.e. if I hang with a murderer, I'll try to bring up his vast agricultural knowledge or his good relationship with his mom).
22. I have a very difficult time lying; whenever I say anything that is good, it has got to be the truth. I just try to speak good things as often as I notice them.
23. I really do not like the majority of the music / books / movies that my husband does.
24. My husband really does not enjoy the majority of the music / books / movies that I do.
25. I'm sure that the rest of my life will be spent trying to live with #23 and #24 and asking God why on earth He put us together.
26. I like beer. Moreover, I like being known as someone who loves Jesus and likes beer.
27. The thing I miss most about college is the discussion of theoretical and philosophical texts. I still read things with the same critical mindset, but I have no one to talk to!
28. I like the person I am today a whole lot more than the person I was a year ago.
29. I love Landon Vitarelli like a little brother; we have a special bond that I will always treasure. He's pictured above. I also have a special love and bond with Gabriel, his older brother who is so much like I was as a child (!!), and Angelina, his older sister who is so creative and lovely and fun to be with, and Sofia, his younger sister who gurgles and has the biggest blue eyes and is adorable.
30. My husband and I are moving to California in March, if God wills. We're selling our house and selling our cars and moving to the land of medical marijuana and temperate climates to be near San Francisco and weather that won't make my husband suffer as much. (we pray!)
{go} this wasn't entirely unexpected

0583 [back, late, excuses...]

First thing's first.

damnshesfeisty, when I saw this movie poster, I thought of you (because the chick has red hair!). I love anti-weed propaganda. It makes me chuckle.


I am going to be brief about why I haven't been posting. Mike and I were having really rough times, arguing about everything, and throwing the "d" word around at our most intense moments. It was terrifying. It was heartbreaking. I think I lost ten pounds from sheer stress. But because everything came to a head, we sought counsel from our pastor, who is wise and a true godly leader. It was the best thing that we could have done. After two sessions, and some serious straight talk from Pastor B. and the Bible (mostly Pastor B. telling us what the Bible says and how to apply it to our situation), our marriage is no longer a source of pain and arguments. We are both doing so much better; Mike is understanding his role as the leader of our family and the protector of my emotions (two things he was not doing), and I am understanding my role as helper and encourager (two things I was not doing). My pride and critical spirit were huge issues that caused an untold number of fights between us. His frustration at a lack of direction regarding his role as a husband and his lack of initiative made our first six months of marriage difficult. We both were immature and confused and extremely selfish. Now we know better what marriage means (being a team) and what it does not (living a single life with a roommate).

I am so happy now. Those things that I said about marriage previously are exactly what selfish, immature people make a marriage. But I sincerely believe that with good counseling and both partners devoted to creating a marriage that glorifies God, marriage can be really amazing. It's the best thing I've ever done. So, loves, don't be afraid. Just be prepared. And sign up for counseling from someone you trust as soon as you get married. Pre-marriage counseling does very nearly nothing. You've got to live in the reality before the theory can be adequately understood and applied.

(I cannot recommend enough this book on marriage by John Piper called This Momentary Marriage (it's free in .pdf on Piper's website!!) It is incredibly easy to read aloud, as Mike and I have done, and great for sparking discussion and, most importantly, illuminating the principles behind biblical marriage. Mostly, Piper quotes his wife, who told him that "you cannot say too often that marriage is an image of Christ and the church." To be honest, I know some of you dear friends aren't Christians. That's okay. I cannot downplay how helpful this book, the Bible, and my Christian family were in helping my marriage. That's all.)


(my parents are the best, and my in-laws are the best. how did I get all of the awesome in my one, tiny life? I don't know. but they are all my favorites.)


Day 4 - Your views on drugs and alcohol.

Honestly, I believe that everything is permissible. Everything can be beneficial in moderation. I don't pass any judgment on people who snort coke and I pass no judgment on those who abstain from even drinking coffee. I don't set rules for anyone but myself. I know what I can't handle, and really have no desire to ever be drunk or high. I do think that marijuana would make a huge difference in my husband's health and quality of life, and I'm frankly very pissed that it's illegal in New York. That's one reason why we're moving to California in March. Also, I like drinking craft beer. I am Reformed. I think it's cool. ;)