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Dec. 17th, 2005 @ 12:16 am nice to meet you. you're scary
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being shy kind of sucks.
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From:user_undefined
Date:December 17th, 2005 06:06 am (UTC)
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You could always do what most shy collegiate folks do and drink until the edge goes away. Escapism. Yay.

Or you could walk around with me and we could be Team Awkward. Woo!

At any rate, *hugs*. (Well, *awkward hugs*.)
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From:erf_
Date:December 17th, 2005 06:08 am (UTC)
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TEAM AWKWARD TO SAVE THE DAY
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From:aesvir
Date:December 17th, 2005 04:21 pm (UTC)
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Or you can do what I do: overcompensate by being intimidatingly aggressive at inopportune moments, then become reclusive when the embarassment sets in. That said, I've resolved to use this tactic on all the handsome males of my acquaintance for the spring formal, on the off chance that one of them is equally shameless and will say yes. :p
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From:erf_
Date:December 17th, 2005 07:52 pm (UTC)
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Sure...and spite all the less handsome men trying to do the exact same thing to you on the dance floor. Way to go, Michelle. :b
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From:aesvir
Date:December 18th, 2005 04:30 pm (UTC)
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Less handsome men should probably play to their strengths and work on wow-ing the girl off the dance floor, when he doesn't have just five seconds to establish himself as an attractive companion. I've seen quite a number of guys here end up dating women subjectively more physically attractive than them, and it was a combination of luck, tenacity, a sense of spontaneous romance, and workmanlike catering to the girl's any needs. Granted, all of these guys are Korean, and they achieve that sort of extravagance of effort that seems natural rather than creepy because they're Korean. Yes, this sounds harsh. *shrug* People who are less advantaged are forced to work harder, alas.

Less beautiful women can always rely on guys' sense of blatant opportunism and hit on them when they are half-drunk. :p
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From:aesvir
Date:December 18th, 2005 04:36 pm (UTC)
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Ultimately, I think we gain advantage relative to others of our age cohort with the passage of time. Our stronger qualities are more marketable to an older audience. I think of it as playing the long game instead of the short one. :p
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From:erf_
Date:December 18th, 2005 05:02 pm (UTC)
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I can't speak for you, but a goodly number of women my age at Oberlin are at least as mature as I am, so I can't consider this to be true for me anymore.

Plus, it's kind of silly to assume that you're going to become more appealing, not less, as you grow older.
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From:erf_
Date:December 18th, 2005 05:08 pm (UTC)
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Michelle, the more you talk about guys at Harvard, the more like I feel they are all assholes. My sympathies.

Koreans, both male and female, are creepy. They don't "get away with it," but they stereotypically have the confidence to be well-liked nonetheless.

Also, "luck, tenacity, a sense of spontaneous romance, and workmanlike catering to the girl's any needs"? I've got one word for you: whipped. That's not a boyfriend, that's a sex slave. I am wary of any relationship that exists just because one party enjoys being liked by the other party--including the ones that end in marriage.

And drunken hookups end in sex, not love.
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From:user_undefined
Date:December 17th, 2005 09:36 pm (UTC)
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Oooh! Oooh! We have the same tactics!

I think they're working about as well as for me as they appear to be working for you. :P