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Sep. 15th, 2005 @ 06:20 pm let's just be friends
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In a bizarre cross-Internet discussion, cartoonist of popular geek webcomic User Friendly J.D. "Illiad" Frazier" comments on something he read someone post on b3ta about relationships. The original message:

DragonflyBlade21: A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired.


Illiad disagrees:

The part that is utter bollocks is: This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you.

That is not an accurate parallel. The reason why women (or men for that matter) aren't interested in someone romantically is because they aren't attracted to them. This may be for physical, mental or emotional reasons. What ever it is, you have no control over it and being a doormat isn't going to help. An ideal mate isn't "just" a great friend. For a lot of people, a mate should also set one's loins on fire.


An interesting discussion ensues.

As someone who's been a human tampon since puberty, this hits pretty close to home.

(edit: Googling dragonflyblade21 reveals that the quote is not actually from b3ta, but from everywhere. dragonflyblade21 is immortal!)
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