"Why have philosphers always spoken of love? That's how philosophy started - No, no. It's not possible. I have an empty head on love in general. And as for the reason philosophy has often spoken of love, I'd either have nothing to say or I'd just be reciting cliches.
One of the first questions one could pose... I'm just searching a bit... is the question of the difference between the who and the what. Is love the love of someone or the love of something? Okay supposing I loved someone. Do I love someone for the absolute singularity of who they are? I love you because you are you. Or do I love your qualities, your beauty, your intelligence? Does one love someone, or does one love something about someone? The difference between the who and the what at the heart of love, separates the heart. It is often said that love is the movement of the heart. Does my heart move because I love someone who is an absolute singularity, or because I love the way that someone is? Often love starts with some type of seduction. One is attracted because the other is like this or like that. Inversely, love is dissapointed and dies when one comes to realise the other person doesnt merit out love. The other person isn't like this or like that. So at the death of love, it appears that one stops loving another not because of who they are, but because they are such and such. That is to say, the history of love, the heart of love, is divided between the who and the what."- Jacques Derrida
I just want to remember this. I couldn't find it online, so while watching it, I typed this out. There are some things that I don't agree, some philosophies of his that I frown upon and don't understand, but that's what philosophy is about anyway right? I'm fascinated with this idea of love, and how philosophers try to construct, deconstruct and reconstruct it. Intellectuals tear it apart, shred it up and analyse it, but commonfolk just angst over it and make stupid love notes. The contrast is slightly hilarious. The philosophy of it makes my head hurt a little, but I think it makes the entire idea of love a little more fun. I remember when it began and I don't think I will ever forget it.