Whats the difference between you and him
Today someone occused me of always dating the same type of guys. How did this topic arise? I mentioned how weird life was when you have a bad experience with a type of guy that drives you to be skeptical about every guy that type. (Type = i.e. Punk, emocore, hip hop, persian and rich (hahah))
He claimed all the guys I dated were dumb (funny, coming from him)... But... were they? I think back to the boys that I remember being with one way or another in my life.(if ur mentioned, u obviously had an effect on me) Seth, Alex, Justin, Jeff, Adam, David, Mike, Garrett. Evan.. Aaron.Chris and Neal.. hm.
I don't think every guy is the same, especially not every guy I've dated. True, there are some things some have in common with others.. but theres no actual ON GOING trend. But what if there was? What makes you attracted to a single stable thing?... For example.. "they are all druggies". The girl who dates all druggies. We all know one or 2. And if you don't, you will. What does she see in them? And why would she even allow that as a quality when the "Drugs" were the mere reason she ended the previous relationship? Or you know, the guys that ALWAYS want sex. (P.s... these are either hypothetical or actual examples of people I know).. Or.. I have a guy friend and he alwyas tends to fall for those Gold-diggers. What is it that attracts us? And of course, on the other side of the table.. there are the GOOD-TRENDS..... Good trends? Such as? ... Hm.. For example I like romantics. I also like goofballs. Out of the list of boys up there...How many were very good, genuinely romantic: 2 How many tried hard but never got it right?4 And how many were absolutely clueless about the subject?3... So out of all those guys, only 2 really fit my description. And when you really look at them, you can see how different they were.
One cares, the other doesn't. One likes school, another doesn;t. One does drugs, another is straightedge. One is a talented writer, another can't put a sentence together for the life of him on AIM. One likes to party, another likes to stay home ALL THE TIME.
I'm not the type that dates the same kind of people. For example., Im not the gitl that dates all the players of the football team, starting with the captain. And then when Im done with them, off to the basketball team. I'm not the type that locks herself into dating punks or emocores.. even tho i think they are hot like Josh.
To me, when a boy has something intreguing... thats it. Thats all it takes to get me interested..that "something". What where their somethings?
Seth:how he let me be a mom to him .. and listened to everything i said... and believed me.. and had faith in me. he was my best friend.
Alex: How he ran his fingers through my hair.
Justin: They way he always helped me laugh at myself.
Jeff: How he made me feel like the most loved person in the world. I never had a doubt in my mind that made me believe he didn't love me.. and that I wasnt the only girl in the world to him.
Adam: We'd only been dating a week and he always made me feel like we were dating a lifetime.
David: He brought me a rose almost every day.
Mike: We were closer than anything in the world.. and it was the first time I didn't feel grossed out by having feelings for someone i considered my brother. His sarcasm & criticism helped me become stronger
Garrett.The way he kissed me.
Evan:The way we made love. and all the small things in ur relationship. he never thought i noticed, but i did. there were never so many small things.
Aaron: The way he grabbed a hold of me.
Chris: Massages. Massages. Massages.
Neal: my heart has yet to race as fast as he made it race. EVERY single time I was with him, my heart wouldnt stop. It was amazing. We lasted 2 years on and off.
See? Even the way I FELT FOR THEM, is different.
...I wonder what my next guy is going to be like. Whats he going to have in common with other ex's? Whats he going to have that they didnt?
But for the mere fact I can ask that question.. shows... not every guy Iv ever dated was the same. Nor would they fit under the same catagory.
Hey ****, would u consider urself to be in the same catagory as we'll say, Jeff?