So why do people think, and what do they think about?
Is it a bad thing? Is it a good thing? Is it pointless? Does it just create barriers that don't need to exist?Does it aid us in not doing anything we will regret in the morning?
Sometimes its a good thing and others, its a bad thing.
In the past couple of hook ups I've had.. I've switched roles. The first was being asked not to think, the second... I caught myself asking him not to think. But then again, I think they were 2 different situations. They had to be. Right?
I think sometimes, we become our mind's worst enemy... and at other times.. we become best friends. The first situation, had I not been thinking... I would have had sex w/ the guy. The thinking involved at that moment was there for that exact moment, and that moment alone. It was the kind of thinking that revolved around "If I do this.... ". So in this case, the thinking was much required. Would I have regretted it in the morning? Who knows. But I do know, I was happy with my decision.
The other kind of thinking, that I have been guilty of plenty of times in the past.. is the You are creating crap to worry about, when theres absolutely nothing to worry about.... But you can't help it. You know, the kind of thinking that makes you wonder... "Now that this happened, where will it go? Will it progress? Or is this just counter productive?". Or "Maybe what we are doing... isn't moving us along... isn't putting us on hold..".
In the last incident, I asked him to stop thinking. I didn't do it for the same reason guy#1 did it to me. I didn't think, "Oh man, this guy needs to stop thinking so I can get some already". I thought... "This is going to haunt him if he keeps thinking about it."
Maybe I don't think as much, cause I do all my thinking when Im not with the person... (The second type of thinking, of course).
And of course theres also the good type of thinking. The "Oh my God, he feels so good..." or "I've never kissed anyone this amazing.. my hearts racing... my body's shaking... I never want this euphoric moment to end... i feel so comfortable with him.. i love being naked with him... he's so fun... "
Why do our minds feel the need to become an obstacle at times? Is it ever an obstacle? Are they just trying to help? Are we as human beings not allowed to enjoy sex, pure sex.. without something getting in the way? Oh wait.. yes we are.. that happens all the time... So then why these times? Is there more involved? Should we NOT stop the process of thinking... even if it might put our sex lives on hold?
Who knows. All I know is I'm living by a new motto.. which is getting me to think less, and enjoy more.
No limits, no expectations.