||[Oct. 7th, 2007|06:13 pm]
|||||A setting sun||]|
|||||Rufus Wainwright - Hallelujah||]|
Impassivity can surprisingly be considered a virtue. As mentioned before, pain is a necessary part of discipline and a side-effect of growth. Even as we grow, our bones ache and our muscles get sore. In birth, the pains of labor are blindingly intense. Surviving these are proof that we are capable of overcoming pain to achieve some greater end. When we set into bad patterns and habits, it is sometimes required of us that we shake ourselves free of those patterns so that we can move forward and develop new patterns. Sometimes it is necessary to help others to do this and in doing so, we provide a painful kind of assistance. Sometimes, we can receive the blame for the pain of the assistance.
If a particular lesson requires a lack of sympathy, then that is what you must hold yourself to. More than just patience, to be impassive is to remove yourself from the immediate feedback of the situation. As a human, you can do this. As an animal, you cannot. To act is human. To react is below us. As a human, every single moment should be an action, not a reaction. Each moment must be the product of our choices for the moment and for the long-term. Yet we are constantly on the defensive and reacting to every single thing around us, and worse, reacting blindly. We respond in the only manner we know how to. There is no way to learn from simply reacting, especially if one cannot objectively look and see how one is reacting in the third-person. Human beings have the gift of being able to act in opposition to their beliefs, to their emotions, to their morals, to act in complete defiance of anything they value. One could believe that being impassive to a situation would imply that it's simply not caring. Instead, it can be a choice to not give the desired reaction and to reach some better end, to end a malicious pattern.
It's not repression, it's not negligence, it's not apathy. It's gritting your teeth and standing by your goal, come hell or high water. It's a conscious act of choosing not to react. It's focusing on what matters most.