July 13th, 2013


"DON'T STOP talking."

It's actually way way too late to post this (here), but:

There are lists of advice about how to behave with emotionally/mentally ill friends floating around tumblr. But I’ve been thinking what to tell a nice girl who kept worrying, and this is my single advice. Considering my history, I should have nutshelled this sooner, because every person we lose tips the balance further.

It sounds simple, but to NOT STOP (communicating with a less and less entertaining friend) is actually impossibly hard. Because you get frustrated and (still) feel you’re not helping or making any difference, and at some point you stop. But then the difference is visible, because the abyss around the suffering (ex-)friend widens.

You don’t need to try to be a therapist or a nurse, just talk normally, especially if the sufferer finds it harder and harder to talk normally themselves. You DO make a difference, even if it doesn’t seem so.

#anxiety #depression #fear #life #That might not go for some Borderline cases I know #but in my experience and opinion it's vital otherwise. #See also what Abed said in Community.

I realise the irony of comment locking this, but I do not want to appear to be fishing.