kimya_dawson_: Some Crap

Kimya Dawson (

kimya_dawson_) wrote,
@ 2008-01-01 11:34:00

Some Crap
I will try to keep this semi-short and relatively sweet, since my last post was so long and heavy. I do need to say this...

1. I received AT LEAST a thousand replies to the "haunted by the ghost of the girl i used to be" post, and almost every one was an intense story from someone in the middle of addiction, or someone in recovery, or someone with an eating disorder, or someone experiencing abuse, or someone with body image issues, or someone who has lost someone close to them, or someone who is terribly lonely. A lot of these replies were from people who had no one to talk to who could relate. And if MySpace had an easier to organize inbox I would have just started pairing people off. A buddy system. Something.

There are so many of people isolated in their pain. There are so many people who keep it all to themselves and feel ashamed of their personal history.

I have been thinking that maybe it would be useful to start an online forum for people with heavy shit going on to have other people to talk to who understand.

Somewhere to go instead of the bar or the party. With good volunteer moderators and maybe some volunteers who are in recovery or have dealt with the issues I listed above who can offer support to people who might be on the brink of crisis mode. Or a just a place for stories to be told.

Just a thought.

2. I have set up a new Great Crap Factory!!! It is still in the very bare-boned development stage, but I really need to have things become for sale after they are made instead of making things after I receive orders. This will not leave room for me to be such a negligent storekeeper. I will still be doing custom paintings on occasion, but I will update about that another time. All of the orders I am behind on will be shipped out tomorrow morning. From now on I will only be selling handmade and painted stuff through the store. So keep checking back for more goodies.

3. The Juno soundtrack is the #1 album on i-tunes. Holy shit.

4. I like hearing from old friends. Please don't feel like you are pestering me. I would love to hear from old buddies I haven't talked to in years, who maybe found me recently. C'mon. We all know which episodes are the best. The ones with reunions. And the ones with flashbacks. Sentimentality is not my enemy. (As long as it is living and breathing and not asking for money) I was a camp counselor for 10 freakin years. Where did all you kids go?!

5. blah...blah...blah...happy new year.

6. MacGyver's house...

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	amberlenore 2008-01-01 08:00 pm UTC (link)
	I think that is a great idea...the whole forum thing. Kids need a place to go. I can help? Did you get the info about the memorial tomorrow? Juno was rad and you did a great job. (Reply to this)

	sleepwalk_er 2008-01-01 08:14 pm UTC (link)
	I would love to be involved in your forum and I think I would make a good moderator if something like that does get created somewhere. for_october@hotmail.com (Reply to this)

	scienceguru 2008-01-01 08:21 pm UTC (link)
	The Juno soundtrack is in heavy rotation on my iTunes right now. ;) I have much love for "Tree Hugger." That song makes me smile. A lot. (Reply to this)

	hobbledehoy 2008-01-01 08:30 pm UTC (link)
	holy bananas juno soundtrack! i think etsy is an awesome plan. (Reply to this)

Forum / pairing up

morphemetales.wordpress.com
2008-01-01 08:35 pm UTC (link)

KD: I'd suggest maybe a threesome (so to speak), where out of every three people, each two can keep an eye on, or support, the other one, in case one person drops the ball. Considering all the social media available there's got to be a tool that would pair (or triple) people up like that. Certainly there are lots of free forum tools. I think if YOU set it up, if it were associated with you, that is, it would have some credibility and focus, so I hope you find the time to do this. I'll ask a few friends who know about these sorts of things about the best free forum software and if there's any tool that would allow pairs or groups to be formed based on certain characteristics.

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Re: Forum / pairing up

zoetestilte
2008-01-02 12:17 am UTC (link)

the threesome idea is great! not only because sometimes people don't lend the support they could/should/would like to, but also because when you're helping someone out it often takes a big tax on you as well, and you've gotta take care of yourself, too!
i really like what this person below me said too about preserving identity other than what you're struggling with. positive things - like music! - already bring so many people together (just look how many people post on kimya's lj!) that using that as a jumping point instead of not-so-fun-stuff could be really powerful. woohoo!

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rideon
2008-01-01 08:47 pm UTC (link)

There are a few forums already in existence (AA Forum, E-AA) but developing a small, supportive community in which people can heal from their various issues while maintaining an identity that encompasses other things (musical interests, for example) would be a worthwhile endeavor. The most important thing is that people feel safe and able to receive support without battling the internet trolls. I believe phpbb can be configured to screen them out.

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	sinfulservent 2008-01-01 08:48 pm UTC (link)
	Panda is growing so quickly! She is so beautiful! Congratulations on being on the 1 album on iTunes-- Juno was fantastic! I remember reading a journal entry a long time ago about how you only wanted to attach your music and name to projects that you believed in, and now here is Juno! It is such a great film, and most definitely one of my favorites of the year! Happy New Years! (Reply to this)

	chadmuska 2008-01-01 09:13 pm UTC (link)
	I saw Juno last night and loved it. I went home and tried to buy the s/t on amazon, I didn't know it was on iTunes! your music was perfect in that movie. (Reply to this)(Thread)

	chadmuska 2008-01-02 02:35 am UTC (link)
	I love that soundtrack so much and I randomly came across this tattoo today... http://flickr.com/photos/headovmetal/1835648222/in/pool-sweettattsbro/ so silly. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	thebreton_16 2008-01-02 08:17 am UTC (link)
	I also have a kimya tattoo! (Reply to this)(Parent)

	hippieglam 2008-01-01 09:40 pm UTC (link)
	i made a new friend last april. she's one of those soul sister types. one of my favorite little memories is of us driving down solano ave listening to the moldy peaches and talking about how we want to give a yellow shirt to some lonesome stranger, because it would make anyone happy. (Reply to this)

	picksflowers 2008-01-01 11:26 pm UTC (link)
	you were a camp counselor for 10 YEARS?!?! holy god. that's SO much camp, ha ha. i was one for 2 weeks this past summer (as a junior counselor, since i am only 17) and i plan on working (and actually getting paid!!!) there this summer for the entire time. i met the most amazing people ever, though; i love camp! WOOOO (Reply to this)

	blamethejew 2008-01-01 11:37 pm UTC (link)
	you are a very good person, kimya dawson. very good indeed (Reply to this)

	vinylqueen12 2008-01-02 12:08 am UTC (link)
	Congrats on the Juno soundtrack! Seriously, no other CD is even close. Well deserved no doubt. The message board thing is an excellent idea,and I think it would be so well received. Happy New Year! (Reply to this)

	richard_moeller 2008-01-02 01:17 am UTC (link)
	I really like the web forum idea. And if it was run by you, it would attract a lot of good people. I could totally use something like that in my life. I say go for it. (Reply to this)

	ireadyourletter 2008-01-02 02:00 am UTC (link)
	stop the nonsense. people need to take responsibility for themselves. (Reply to this)

tallowtree
2008-01-02 02:29 am UTC (link)

that's a really nice idea. i would love to be a part of it. i'm too busy to moderate but man, if people were all joined by a love of you and intense shit, it would probably make for a really cool forum.

i hope you realize what it means to have all those people coming out of the woodwork to share their struggles when you share your struggles. i mean, i guess you know what it means. it means you make a lot of people feel brave and strong.

i loved juno.

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I was thinking about this too

zackwolk
2008-01-02 02:38 am UTC (link)

my abuse wasn't too harsh, I mean - any abuse is bullshit - but I am okay

I was also thinking about a center open for kids that need an escape. The #1 reason why I sat there and took the abuse was because I didn't have anywhere else to go. Maybe we can set up centers with some government money that are loungey and have games and books and people to talk with? Is this overly idealistic? The internet is causing kids to know what's up (beautiful, ugly and everywhere in between) @ a way younger age, so - maybe young people will be able to identify a shitty situation as unjust before it's too late - maybe then they won't have to get into alcohol. The #1 gateway drug.

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thebreton_16
2008-01-02 08:22 am UTC (link)

I don't think I like the idea of the online forum.. ***SOORRRYYYY to be a dickkk*****
but the internet is so dehumanizing! real true personal connecitons are impossible online! infact there's lots of studies showing the correlation between internet use and ones sense of isolation from others.

buuttt maybe it'd be cool if these kids had like local sites to go to, so they could arrange like meetings and stuff.

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manisfive
2008-01-02 09:51 am UTC (link)

a) I was a camp counselor too, for two wonderful summers. And will be again this summer, and hopefully for many summers after that. It's an incredible position to be in, having such an effect over kids' lives, even for a short amount of time.

b) I think this is a really interesting idea. I really like Zack's idea of creating physical locations as well, although that's much more difficult and time-consuming, and the internet is a good place to start until something like that gets put in place. The one thing I'd watch out for is people grouping off by issues and celebrating rather than overcoming their problems; as I know from painful personal experience, when two people with similar problems come together, it can often lead to multiplying the intensity of the issues and causing more hurt. The recent explosion of pro-anorexia sites (which disturb me more than nearly anything else on the internet) is a sad example of this problem. To combat this, I think professional moderators are necessary - as in therapists, social workers, and others trained to deal with these tough issues.

c) If you need help moderating, I could do stuff! You have my e-mail. I'm certainly no professional, just a willing college student, but I have a little more experience at living than the many 13-year-olds out there.

d) Suddenly all those people who thought I was crazy for playing Moldy Peaches all these years are seeing Juno and falling in love with your music. It's the best revenge!

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grenadinefoo
2008-01-02 10:27 pm UTC (link)

Hi Kimya! Thanks for caring about people so much. It means a lot to me that there are still people out there like you!

So there's a possibility that at some point this year I may be able to get my "Cake!" horror movie trailer that you were kind enough to be in onto the internet, maybe onto You Tube. Would you be okay with that? If not, no problem! I wanted to check first. :)

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	kimya_dawson_ 2008-01-03 05:27 am UTC (link)
	good! because i told jason reitman all about it and he really wants to see it! (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	grenadinefoo 2008-01-05 08:23 pm UTC (link)
	Wow! Way to give my motivation a swift kick in the pants! That's amazing. Thank you! :) (Reply to this)(Parent)

	soundship 2008-01-03 12:24 am UTC (link)
	• The forum idea...YES. Please. I'd really like that to happen. • I saw Juno and loved it. A lot. (Reply to this)

	velvetpanda 2008-01-03 12:26 am UTC (link)
	a forum is a fantastic idea, and i would love to be a moderator. i wrote you a message on myspace, and then myspace crashed and i lost it all. i wish you could have read it but i really didn't think i could write it out twice. (Reply to this)

	lowbrass4_20 2008-01-04 01:58 am UTC (link)
	of course juno is number one! your music kicks major ass! I'm so thankful for Juno so I was able to discover your work! Never stop writing. Please. (Reply to this)

	electricstars 2008-01-04 02:14 am UTC (link)
	I'm in recovery right now and reading this made me kind of cry and laugh and love. Thank you thank you. If you do end up starting a forum or something, I hope you'll keep us posted because I'd love to be involved in that. (Reply to this)

	theyarefew 2008-01-04 03:55 am UTC (link)
	i was so excited to hear you doing the soundtrack to "juno" when i went and saw it the other day. when "loose lips" started playing, i sang it out loud. to the annoyance of everyone else in the theater. that was the best surprise i have had in a long time. (Reply to this)

	twirly 2008-01-06 04:51 am UTC (link)
	I love the forum idea and would love to help out. Have a few years of moderating experience. More than willing to help out! :) (Reply to this)

	your music opened up my mind today (Anonymous) 2008-01-12 05:21 am UTC (link)
	Thanks for the wonderful stuff. I plan to play the Juno soundtrack for my friends tomorrow night when they come over to play poker. We are all between 50 - 61. We all have been clean and sober for more than 18 years. 2 men and 3 women. I am so happy to be clear and open to respond to your music. (me 61 yo woman) Lynn San Francisco (Reply to this)(Thread)

	Re: your music opened up my mind today kimya_dawson_ 2008-01-12 02:43 pm UTC (link)
	there is a song on my myspace page called "the beer". you guys should listen to that too. http://www.myspace.com/kimyadawson xoxoxo (Reply to this)(Parent)

	juno etc (Anonymous) 2008-01-16 07:20 pm UTC (link)
	my wife had a gift card to borders and wanted to purchase one of your cd's only to be told that since Juno all your cd's were sold out and on backorder! (Reply to this)

	halllo xoxonut 2008-02-26 02:40 pm UTC (link)
	I wanted to say hallo, and I heard your songs on Juno soundtrack (like everyone else), and it's very nice, I like it. You have no tour date for Toronto, and that sucks =) Keep rocking, ciao. (Reply to this)

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