| it didn't work out how i planned it, but it did work out better than i thought it would |
[Oct. 7th, 2008|09:59 am] |
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trying to feel compassion for myself, to trace my anger and frustration back to my hurt and not to be afraid of that, to listen to what it has to say and then tell it i understand. interested in employing just being there with someone in their pain and telling them i understand vs trying to cheer them up because that only makes them feel worse. trying to face my feelings instead of intellectualizing them or ignoring them so that i feel wrong or dead inside. realizing how much time i spend distracting myself from my pain, what i am really upset about. aghh. i feel like i have come up against a rock in my life but i am too scared to look at it, i want someone to hold my hand while i go there but i don't know how to find out about the right kind of therapist that i am looking for. i am losing my enthusiasm for pouring so so much into him and not getting what i want out of it, only being asked to give more, out of balance because before all the love-feelings made up for the stress it caused me but i can't do that anymore, but i also i know that's not it, i want something from him, i guess the obvious answer is for him to fall in love with me, in which case i will continue to be frustrated until i let that go. constant undulations between feeling inspired and down. it's only because i refuse to do the work. i am so scared. i know there is nothing to be afraid of but i am so, so scared to look at what's inside of me. primarily i can calm myself down but there is this underlying sadness, what is that? gray rainy day in my heart, i don't want to go outside because it will tell me different, i want to crawl into this feeling, why? why am i afraid of the present when things are better here, where i can move on?
more wolf dreams
giant wolves tall as a house, i raised their pup but they are looking to kill me, the pup shows up right when they find me and averts disaster, whatsit mean? i am thinking the adults are my old programs and the pup is compassion for myself, keeping the old programs from eating me alive. in-breath "i am very (emotion, usually 'upset' for me) right now" out-breath "i going to take care of myself" or "i am sending compassion to my (emotion)" really does help |
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| Religions in Stoneybrook |
[Oct. 7th, 2008|08:45 am] |
I am participating in an RPG (and a lot of the characters end up being people I have to google to figure out who they are.)
Anyway, look at some of the names the 8th graders have: Emily Bernstein, Erica Blumberg, Grace Blume, Heather Epstein, Alexander Kurtzman. The names sound Jewish frankly. So is Abby the only Jewish person that Stoneybrook (as it comes off in some of the Abby books) or are all these people Jewish? Or is it a coincidence? A mix of both? |
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[Oct. 6th, 2008|07:58 am] |
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anyone know of good places to dive in daytona beach florida? |
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| Nifty Impromptu Dive |
[Oct. 6th, 2008|09:18 am] |
There's a building downtown that was a nightclub, then a storefront church, and now seems to be empty.
We'd just finished lunch at the little Lebanese restaurant next door when we noticed a bunch of stuff stacked by the dumpsters. Apparently, they'd just emptied out all the stuff that had been there while the place was a church. We grabbed:
- several stacks of unopened paper plates, cups and napkins; some of these I'm sending to my kids' school, some I'm saving for their birthday party next month
- a bongo drum; younger daughter has claimed that
- bag of fabric scraps, for my older daughter, the doll fashion designer
- a toddler-appropriate toy tool set; going to give this to my BF's nephew
- Bob the Builder Memory game; also going to the nephew, for when he's a bit older
- toy angel wings; to another friend's 7-year-old daughter
- big roll of craft paper
- 3 packs of magic markers, unopened
We left a whole bunch of stuff behind, too, such as lamps, an air hockey table, file cabinets, and old computer monitors. What I find maddening? There are TWO thrift stores that are literally across the street from this place. They couldn't take a few minutes to walk it over? (We would have, but the BF is sick right now, and even this bit of exercise wore him out.) |
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[Jan. 2nd, 1970|12:07 am] |
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could someone give me more complete directions to the Green River swimming spot? i'm having trouble following the wiki ones. |
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| Plum pudding question! |
[Oct. 6th, 2008|05:35 pm] |
Is plum pudding still eaten?
I am curious because a friend of mine back in the states asked me the following:
A friend of mine is doing a How to Host a Muder-thingie the second week of November. This one is themed around a murder in an estate in the English countryside in the 1920s. Anyway, I've been dying to try Julia Child's recipe for a Christmas Plum Pudding. I'm not sure if
this is just one of those Americans-think-that-this-is-traditionally-English-but-it's-not sort of thing, but have you ever had it? I'm just wondering since, to make it, it will involve me buying a special "pudding mo(u)ld," so I'd like to know if it's worth it...
I love being considered an expert on traditionally English things, especially when I now live in Scotland [NB this friend is extremely well-traveled and does know the difference; I lived in England too], but I've never had a plum pudding and I don't recall whether Tesco sells them. Is it worth his trying to make one? Are they edible???
I've suggested that it might well be worth trying simply for the historical nature of the party, but I'm personally curious whether anyone these days ever eats it. Tesco has a recipe for little plum puddings in individual ramekins, but not for a big one. |
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[Oct. 6th, 2008|12:31 pm] |
Found some interesting pictures at a thrift store, while vacationing in Cornelius, North Carolina.
I'm assuming this is the earlier picture of the 2 women..
( Perfection ) |
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[Oct. 6th, 2008|01:41 pm] |
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Any one know of a UK version of gamefly? Seems a spiffy idea and might be worth trying for a few months. |
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| newbie |
[Oct. 5th, 2008|07:01 pm] |
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I wish I had some cool stuff to post, but alas, my first post is this question. It's a bit of a longshot, but, is anyone here from the Hamilton, Ontario area? I'm talking about downtown, mountain, stoney creek, dundas, all over. I'm a bit of a newbie and I've been scouting out areas all over but there's nothing. So if there's anyone there who has any suggestions for good places or even doesn't mind having a newbie tag along, please help a sister out. |
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| Green card applicants must get HPV vaccine |
[Oct. 5th, 2008|12:20 pm] |
DALLAS - An expensive cervical cancer vaccine is now needed by young female immigrants before they can become legal U.S. residents, a requirement that immigration advocates say is unfair.
Read full story here.
Are vaccinations such as this required in the UK? I've never heard it mentioned, but I'm curious! |
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| dentist |
[Oct. 5th, 2008|02:12 pm] |
I've been on my student visa for just over a year. I have finished my course and will be applying for the post-study scheme next month. Just moved down to London, from Leeds 2 weeks ago and haven't had time to register with a GP .... or a dentist.
A few days ago, however, I started getting a toothache and thought 'I'll take some Ibuprofin and it will pass.' It didn't. It got worse.
I tried to phone dentists in my area (Cryodon PCT) and had many say that they were taking on new patients but when I said 'oh great, NHS patients?' they would clarify that they were mostly taking on private patients. One receptionist said 'Yes, we are taking on new NHS patients' to which I responded 'Great! Can I come in this week?' Her answer? January
I finally called NHS Direct (whom are incredibly nice) and explained my situation. I was told that it might be an abscess and that I should get to Croy-dent (basically the dental section of the A&E) that night.
I won't get into the details but yes I do have an abscess, my face was swollen and was/still am in lots of pain and taking lots of antibiotics.
My advice, please register with a dentist if you can find one, or get on a waiting list!! You don't want to wait for this pain. Trust me. And, I have fairly good teeth. The dentist thinks that the damage to my tooth was done from my wisdom teeth extraction 3 years ago!!!!
Anyways, I knew that I would have to pay the NHS Dental charges, it would be £16 for my visit but when I signed in at the desk there was a poster saying 'NON EU PATIENTS WITHOUT INDEFINITE LEAVE TO REMAIN MUST PAY AN ADDITIONAL £50 FOR THEIR VISIT'
As a Non-EU patient I was getting ready to dish out another £50 when they said I didn't have to pay. Of course, I did not argue. But, was I really meant to pay? I told them my place of birth and nationality. But, I gave them my London address and place of work. So, does the fact that I live here and work and pay taxes mean that I was okay in not paying the surcharge?
Thanks!
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[Oct. 5th, 2008|12:16 pm] |
Is it just me or is any one else noticing this community is hostile to discussions?
Americans get all offended if anything negative is mentioned about them and the British don't act any better half the time. Can't everyone just grow up and stop being so damn insulted by even the slightest comment on their nation?
For information the community is great, but for any sort of negative discussion it just turns into "DIE IN A FIRE BITCH! DIE DIE DIE! FUCK OFF AND DIE!". What is the point of having a community about two countries if even a minor attempt to discuss either ultimately ends up with someone throwing their dummy out of the pram? |
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| Touchy Americans. |
[Oct. 5th, 2008|12:16 pm] |
Based on how quickly people got their backs up in the last (I think) thread here, I got to thinking about something that happened to me the other night.
I've been living in the UK for 2 years now, and I'd say at least 90% of my experiences here, in terms of my being American, have been positive. Now, I'm at Uni, so that already sort of puts me in a position where 1) being American isn't terribly uncommon, and 2) people in general have a more enlightened - or at least experienced - cultural view. It is a melting pot (one of my favourite multi-cultural moments here was sitting in my kitchen talking about politics and the CIA over a bowl of my fab homemade guacamole with a Norwegian and a Pakistani).
I think the majority of the "Oh, you're American! Where are you from..." conversations I've had have been with taxi drivers, and as such have all been short and friendly. And actually, I find more and more that really it is only a segway segue for them to tell me about their travels in America (maybe this is a Scottish thing). I found that charming at first, but it is starting to get a teensy bit old, especially when I'm cornered and don't want to chat. THAT is what happened the other night...
I was sitting outside the pub with my friends - all Scottish or English - while they were having a smoke. I was regaling them with tales as usual, when some older guy standing nearby decided to interrupt our friendly banter to make a joke about how he misheard something I said. Now we are a friendly bunch, and are happy to chat with strangers. But what he said was simply unfunny (not rude, just not clever). Anyway, he proceeded to do the whole "where are you from... now I'll tell you what _I_ know of Americans" thing. But I really just wanted to chat with my mates, and this guy just wasn't interesting. But I listened to be polite. Then he asked who I voted for.
In the right conversation, I don't mind this question. But not from this guy... and as I'm sure many ex-pats can relate, this is a hot and touchy subject, and we all seem to be ambassadors just now - the voices of American politics. So I informed him that actually, it was a private matter and is considered impolite to ask. He pressed on, and got defensive when my friends agreed it was rude, and argued that basically I'm in Scotland now (so my argument of it being a rude question in America was invalid). Anyway, the conversation ended when, after his comment that Obama would surely be killed within a year because "America has a history of that", I made it clear that I didn't really have any more to add to our talk, and he left with some comment like "let's not reinforce any more stereotypes here, good night."
Now, there are assholes everywhere. And maybe I should have just talked to the guy. But I wasn't in the mood, I just wanted to chat with my friends, and btw, something like this happened LAST weekend too, where a guy started with asking me where I was from, and what began as a pleasant conversation suddenly went south and ended with some kind of comment about us "stringing N*ggers from trees". I think it was a fairly supportive comment, too. Lovely. Oh, and there was that other time where the young dj-wannabe began with "I love Americans but you guys have really fucked up the world."
So, was I a touchy American? Do you Brits find us particularly sensitive (I think we talked about this here not too long ago)? Or do you just take it in stride when Americans (or any other culture) make ignorant comments or generalizations about your own culture?
I think I've just lived here long enough where I feel like it is home, but my accent gives me away. I just want to blend. I'm proud of my heritage, but I don't want to wear it like a badge. I grew up in a city where foreign accents are the norm, so I hadn't really given much thought to being in this position before. It is a fascinating experience really... something maybe all Americans should go through.
Ramble - done. |
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[Oct. 4th, 2008|07:16 pm] |
i know american english starts out at the bottom of the barrel, and i shouldn't be surprised at how we manage to sink to even more dizzying lows... but when the screen on an atm of a national bank displays, "to help you better, what language should we talk in?", well i just die a little inside.
what i'd like to know is how our friends across the pond are faring on this front? is it as hopeless as it is in the us? have you noticed the same degree of degeneration in other countries/languages? has popular (mis)use taken over institutional standards, and beaten quality-control senseless?
if so - do you think are americans to blame? after infecting the world with ubiquitous mcdonald's and trash television, i don't think it would that difficult a task. |
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| Question... |
[Oct. 4th, 2008|11:41 am] |
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I have a quick question. I am working on re-reading the BSC series in order (i have almost the whole series yay!). Does anyone know what order the mysteries are in while reading the normal BSC series? |
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[Oct. 4th, 2008|05:35 am] |
 my friend?
oh haaar haaaar. |
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| we've got spirit |
[Oct. 3rd, 2008|11:06 pm] |
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I like the evil male overlord in the back. And the captured motion. I work at Half Price Books, so most every photo I find is found in a used book. I haven't found one in a few weeks, but this and my previous post were already scanned into my computer. How do we feel about dirty nasty found photos in this community? I have found some NSFW items in the past, nudge nudge. [They involve boobs.]
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