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08 July 2012 @ 03:52 pm
after i see joel mchale i'll have hit basically every tv show i really like  
I. Sometimes I think I should post to LJ, but I really have nothing to say because my life right now is beyond boring. I'm job hunting, which as I'm sure many of you know is basically the worst thing to ever do in the world. Since that's present tense, you can probably infer that I have no job, and you would be correct. So basically I have a lot of free time and nothing to do because I have no money, everything costs money, and most of my friends are real people with real jobs.

II. Last night despite the whole "no money" thing though a friend and I went to see Aziz Ansari's stand-up show, since he was in town. I'm not familiar with him outside of Parks & Rec, but he was very very funny. I was also pretty impressed because there was only one or two jokes that I thought were a bit off-colour and they weren't even that bad really -- especially compared to the woman who opened for him, where I spent half of her set sort of cringing. Anyway, if for whatever reason you have the opportunity to see the show and were considering it but not sure, I'd recommend it.

III. I understand that most weddings are going to be "destination" for someone because most people do not have family/friends all in the same city. When I was in a wedding last October, I had to get to Chicago, and while that was a bit of an expense for me, it was reasonable for most of the bride+groom's family and friends. So y'know, whatever, hazard of being a bridesmaid for someone you met on Neopets. I get it.

But here when I say "destination wedding" I mean "the fucking Caribbean". Does this sound beautiful? Yeah! Does it kind of suck to ask your guests to shell out ~$1,500 to attend your wedding? Well, yeah.

Anyway, the first deposit is due by the end of August so I guess I need to make a decision soon-ish. On one hand, these are some of my very best friends -- I've known the bride since grade nine, and I've known them as a couple their entire relationship (which is some time now). I would LOVE to go to their wedding. And possibly if point #1 wasn't an issue, and I knew I had a steady source of income and could take a week+ off work, that'd be great. As it stands, though, I don't know any of those things, so the prospect of this wedding just feels like a hassle.

IV. God this is a boring post full of information no one wants. Possibly more relevant: Karen and I are thinking of starting up dwrewatch again! If you were around last time and have some suggestions or feedback to offer, head over and let us know.
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Lizbazcat89 on July 8th, 2012 08:30 pm (UTC)
I dunno man, I know we've talked about this but....people get so obnoxious about their weddings. Has Lis asked you to be a Bridesmaid, or is she the one who was like GOOD THING I HAVE SISTERS
Kali: dw :: amy :: mad impossible_thirty2flavors on July 8th, 2012 08:38 pm (UTC)
LOL

Yeah I'm not a bridesmaid, it's just her sister + Tania. I'm not butthurt about that since it's less work and pressure for me (and I'm not obligated to go).
Nichothodes Koryfoidesplacebetween on July 12th, 2012 10:23 pm (UTC)
lol omg that's how I feel about my future bridesmaids, is this a bad thing?
ibishtar: Stuffibishtar on July 8th, 2012 08:32 pm (UTC)
Gah. I'm job-hunting too right now and I hate the feeling of having nothing to do just as much as I hate having no money. My friends get it because many of them are in the same position but so many family members or friends of family keep asking about my employment status and it's so frustrating.
Sorry to hear about your dilemma with your friends' wedding. Some people like having destination weddings because it means they can invite everyone and only the closest friends and family will come, but the way things are these days that's going to be pretty rough on guests. That's a lucky couple, though, they're going to have a blast.


Kali: dw :: doctordonna :: so not married_thirty2flavors on July 8th, 2012 08:48 pm (UTC)
Yeah. I've been out of school since mid-April now so it's been a while. At first it was sort of relaxing, and I had my trip and everything, but for the last few weeks it's started to drive me crazy and I'm sure it will be a while before I find anything so... lol MORE TIME to go stir crazy.

My friends get it because many of them are in the same position but so many family members or friends of family keep asking about my employment status and it's so frustrating.

Yes! Like, rest assured, when there's a thrilling breakthrough I'll keep you all updated, you don't need to ask me constantly. Thankfully my parents have (so far) been pretty good about not needlessly pestering me, but everyone else's favourite question is SO WHAT ARE YOU DOING NOW? and it drives me crazy.

Yeah, I think limiting the guest list is one of their goals, since the bride comes from a huge family (10+ aunts/uncles on each side). But unfortunately I think it's going to have the effect where the people who can afford to come are maybe not their first choice of attendees in the first place, since her extended family is quite wealthy and her closest friends are people who just graduated university this year, lol. I'm sure it'll be beautiful and they're saving themselves money, but to me it seems presumptuous -- at least when we're all the age we are, and have only just graduated and haven't settled into steady jobs/income yet.
ibishtar: Doctor Whoibishtar on July 8th, 2012 09:03 pm (UTC)
Oh, God, so accurate. "So what are you doing now?". I've heard that so many times today it's driven round the bend, slightly. I'm using the Internet as therapy, now lol.
Opal: Billie Piper: smileshinyopals on July 8th, 2012 08:56 pm (UTC)
Ugh job hunting. I will continue to check my company's job postings but alas, we are quite small. BUT I MIGHT HAVE DRIVEN ONE OF THE ADMINS TO QUIT BY VOMITING ON HER BOOTS ON FRIDAY, SO SHARPEN THOSE PENCILS.

and man weddings should not cost 4 figures simply to attend jfc.

yay for dwrewatch! \o/
Kali: dw :: ten/rose :: applegrass!_thirty2flavors on July 8th, 2012 09:00 pm (UTC)
AM I CORRECT IN ASSUMING THAT THIS ADMIN POSITION WOULD NOT REQUIRE FRENCH because that is quite a pain in my ass rn ngl

YEAHHH I mean the excuse is "you get a holiday too!" but IDK usually I define holiday as me picking where I want to go and when.
Opalshinyopals on July 8th, 2012 09:02 pm (UTC)
FROM THE SOUNDS OF IT, IT'S KINDA AN UNDERAPPRECIATED ROLE WITH LOTS OF BEING BOSSED AROUND, BUT THERE IS NO FRENCH REQUIRED.

lol yeah, I'd like to go to the Caribbean, but I'd want to go on my own time and that sort of thing. Although obviously seeing friends get married is nice.
turtle_goose: THOR: Sif & Warriors 3 - RAINBOW!turtle_goose on July 8th, 2012 09:59 pm (UTC)
You're not alone in the job hunting, BB. It most definitely sucks. I hate writing cover letters.

My brother and his girlfriend have talked about a beach wedding. Which sounds kind of cool, ngl, but at the same time, it seems like so much work. And I'd probably get stuck at home, managing the office.
sherrilina: Arthur/Chicken (Merlin)sherrilina on July 8th, 2012 10:51 pm (UTC)
I hate writing cover letters.

UGH SO MUCH WORD. I swear, applying to jobs would be so much easier if they didn't all require them...I have this bad habit of putting them off that I need to break.
Kali: dw :: ten/rose :: thought i lost you_thirty2flavors on July 9th, 2012 01:49 am (UTC)
It takes me forever to write cover-letters too because I find it really hard and have no idea WTF I'm writing.
Kali: dw :: amelia :: sulk_thirty2flavors on July 9th, 2012 01:43 am (UTC)
Omfg cover letters are the worst! I don't know what I'm doing! Ahhhhhhh! Plus everything wants experience and I'm like BUT OF COURSE I DON'T HAVE EXPERIENCE I AM JUST ENTERING THE WORKFORCE PROPERLY NOW AHHH.

I think it's a bit less work in terms of planning because the resort takes care of everything, or at least they do if you get one of these package deals or whatever. But in terms of actual organization and like, flights and blah blah it's probably more work.

Aw it would suck to be stuck back at home while they were at the beach! lol
EmmyMikemmymik on July 8th, 2012 11:48 pm (UTC)
Ugh. Job hunting is the worst. I graduated June of last year and still haven't found anything. I've still got my part-time retail job, so I probably shouldn't complain. But I will because it sucks.
Kali: act :: dten :: i can't do it!_thirty2flavors on July 9th, 2012 01:46 am (UTC)
Yeah, I'll probably end up back in retail/something similar. Which isn't terrible but isn't really a career. Or at least is not something I want to be a career.
icecreamlova ¯\(ºдಠ)/¯: real life?rosaxx50 on July 9th, 2012 03:22 am (UTC)
Oh dear. Good luck job hunting, may you miraculously find it within your resources to attend your friends' wedding. I would offer you advice but I'm not very good at job hunting either and one of the HR people had to point out something I'd forgotten to fill in, on the references. Whoops.

I like the idea of dwrewatch starting up again. It gives me an excuse to procrastinate.
Kali: dw :: team tardis :: turn left_thirty2flavors on July 9th, 2012 03:54 pm (UTC)
Haha thanks. Yeah I've never had to job hunt properly before because all the most recent jobs I've had were through the co-op program, and the application process for that is different.

LOL indeed! I'm not sure what our timeline will look like but I suspect we'll get started soonish.
Let Them Talkbluetooth16 on July 9th, 2012 05:01 am (UTC)
I'm in the same boat as you as far as the job searching goes. Good luck!

Personally, I think destination weddings are obnoxious if the couple aren't paying for at least part of the cost of attending. Don't be afraid to turn down attending their wedding if you don't have the money.
Kali: dw :: donna :: best temp in chiswick_thirty2flavors on July 9th, 2012 03:58 pm (UTC)
And to you as well my friend!

Yeah I see the appeal of a beach wedding, but it seems like something more suited to an elopement than a legit wedding with 40+ people. It seems really presumptuous to me to be saying "well I know you all wanna see me get married SO BAD you'll shell out over a grand for it!"
Amanda: dw || just a couple of fansfree_reverie on July 9th, 2012 05:02 am (UTC)
My mom's a travel agent and she sells a looooot of destination weddings- they suck for the guests because you have to shell out for them, but for the marrying couple they're pretty great- a lot of resorts give you a package in which they take care of all the wedding details including ceremony, flowers, reception, etc, and some even build a honeymoon package into the wedding package as well.

Depending on how long the trip is, $1500 might actually not be that bad of a price, depending on the quality of the resort, if it's an all-inclusive- they might even include some excursions in the price point as well, stuff like boat trips or snorkeling and the like.

But yeah, $1500 is a huge initial cost to get your head around, especially for a vacation that is dictated by someone else's needs.
Kali: eng :: i will stop your mouth_thirty2flavors on July 9th, 2012 04:05 pm (UTC)
Yeah I think the appeal for the bride + groom was that it was cheaper for them and also less work, because like you said the resort will take care of the flowers, decorating, reception, etc. So I get that. And if they were just planning to elope or something with closest family or something, I could see that too.

But I do think it's a lot to ask of your friends and extended family, at least at the point in our lives where most of us are -- we all just graduated a month ago so some of us, bride included, don't have jobs yet, etc. I DUNNO I mean they can do whatever they want with their wedding, but I think it's asking a lot and I think the consequence is that some people you'd expect them to really want at their wedding won't be there.
Amanda: books || books in tvfree_reverie on July 9th, 2012 05:12 pm (UTC)
Oh yeah, I completely understand that- my sister is talking about doing a destination wedding in a couple of years, and she knows that pretty much only her two best friends, and our immediate family will go, and that's why she wants to do that. But it is such an imposition, especially with the lack of a solid future job, and looming loans, or whatever everyone has going on.

I would think that she would understand this, and wouldn't be upset if people can't make it- because I mean honestly, not everyone has $1500 just lying around ready to use, or the ability to take a week off from their lives and go somewhere that requires a passport.

Why can't everyone just elope and have a food party afterwards? I like that plan.
sherrilina: Arthur/Chicken (Merlin)sherrilina on July 9th, 2012 05:03 am (UTC)
Totally feeling you on the job hunting thing, although I have not been at it as long (my grad school program is wrapping up in like 3 weeks, and everyone is like, "So what are you doing next?!" though I don't think anyone in my program has found anything yet)...good luck!

And ugh, destination weddings (going to a place where nobody actually lives) just seem kind of obnoxious to me, for the reasons you say. Especially when people often have limited vacation time and money for travel, to demand that they spend a good portion of it on them...:s
Kali: misfits :: rubbish superheroes_thirty2flavors on July 9th, 2012 04:08 pm (UTC)
Thanks, you too! It is not fun. I don't even feel like I'm being overly picky, I really just want something where I don't have to stand all day.

Yeahhhh that's the other thing, I mean even if I was settled into a job where I had 2 weeks vacation or whatever, asking me to spend about a week of it on your wedding seems a bit... presumptuous. Especially since lol the Caribbean in May is not somewhere I want to go, really. If it was in January or February? Yeah that sounds great! But when it's warm here going somewhere warmer doesn't really appeal.
Frances: Buffy - drink?goldy_dollar on July 9th, 2012 03:15 pm (UTC)
LORD $1500. I'm not sure I love any of my friends quite that much tbh.
obstinate, headstrong girl!: anim | anastasia → anya + dmitrizombie_boogie on July 9th, 2012 10:28 pm (UTC)
I'm sure destination weddings are fabulous for the couple. I think if you actually want to have family and friends attend your wedding you should stick to home, though - I think a destination wedding is better for an elopement or one with a handful of very, very close guests. It just not fair to expect a wider number of guests to attend, and I think it's kind of a weird way to narrow down your guest list - unfortunately they may end up narrowing it down to the people who can afford to go rather than just a small pool of people they really want there. People would be better off sucking it up and narrowing down the list themselves instead of letting people's pocket books dictate whether they can come or not (as an internet comparison, it's like when people post "comment and I'll keep you" posts instead of making the cut themselves - they may not get the cuts they want).
Kali: act :: kgill :: it's me!_thirty2flavors on July 11th, 2012 04:40 pm (UTC)
Yeah, that's basically how I feel. They're inviting ~90 people and hoping only ~30 say yes. But you're right, I mean, the people who are saying yes aren't necessarily the people they're closest to or the people they'd really want to be there -- it's just the people who can afford it easily.

lmao and yeah. I always make it a point not to comment on those posts NGL.
Nichothodes Koryfoides: books | hmmmplacebetween on July 12th, 2012 10:25 pm (UTC)
My parents saw Joel McHale a while back and said he was really funny while being fairly clean-cut for a comedian ... take my parents' assessment as you will, but my mom still gushes about him occasionally. I'd love to see him sometime.

Will the total cost really be around $1500?? That seems absurd. I guess you are flying from Canada.
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