So mom, in her usual wonderful way of sharing news, called me at work yesterday (Friday) to tell me she'd had our dog put to sleep. Lily had gotten sick pretty quick, and it deteriorated fast in the last two weeks. We discussed it, but I didn't think she'd do it without my brother and I knowing/saying goodbye. But when I said that, her response was "Oh, I didn't think about that." Later at dinner she asked if I was upset that I didn't get to say goodbye and be there, and I truly am, and pissed, but I said not really, she was so out of it at the time she wouldn't have noticed. But that's not the point, dammit.