Sun 06  Jun 2010|@ 1:18am - Subject: F R I E N D S O N L Y

Due to recent events in my life, I have now decided to make my LJ completely Friends Only.


Please comment with:

1. Who you are
2. How you found my LJ
3. Add me...I'll add you back.(most likely)

N.B. If you don't comment on this entry I will not add you until you do.




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Wed 19  Mar 2008|@ 11:42am - Subject: LJ strike: Friday March 21st

"For those of you who don't already know, there has been a strike scheduled for Friday, March 21st, 2008, during which we hope to have many members of LiveJournal provide LJ with absolutely no content for twenty-four hours. This means no posting and no commenting. If you post elsewhere and have it set up to be posted through a feed on LiveJournal, don't do it. Stay away from LiveJournal for twenty-four hours. That can't be too hard, can it? I know some of you are probably quite active on LiveJournal and will find it hard to stay away for an entire day, just as I will, but this is something that needs to be done, to show the people running LiveJournal that we're watching the changes they are making, that we're paying attention, that we're discontent, and that we want to be heard and taken in to consideration. We are not simply users who can be tossed to the side and ignored. We are the people who make up LiveJournal. Without us, without the content we create, without our words, our voices, our creativity, our participation, there would be no LiveJournal. This is a fact, and it needs to be realized and understood and then taken in to consideration when making decisions regarding the way that LiveJournal is run. The strike is only a few days away, so there isn't all too much time to prepare. While this is unfortunate, it isn't enough to keep this strike from taking place. It will take place, the second it is meant to, and it would be best to have as many people take part as possible. Please, spread the word. Spread it fast. There are only a few days to organize this. If you find that you care about LiveJournal or care about the people you interact with on LiveJournal or simply want it to remain a place where you can entertain yourself without constant censorship and money-hungry practices being thrown in without the consideration of those who use the service, act now. If you don't wish to spread the word, that is fine, but please: refrain from using LiveJournal on Friday, March 21st. Do something else for a change. It's for a good cause. (:

For background on this strike and why it is being held, please read the following posts:
http://beckyzoole.livejournal.com/394838.html
http://beckyzoole.livejournal.com/395310.html

To find out exactly when the strike begins and ends, depending on where you are located, please see this:
http://beckyzoole.livejournal.com/395125.html

What's this about?
* It's about free and ad-free LiveJournal accounts being abolished for new members, ignoring the advice from the newly-formed Advisory Board.
* It's about LJ staff trying to sneak this decision in under the radar, and when people found out, telling the users it was done 'to make the signup process less confusing'.
* It's about LJ staff failing to apologize for trying to hide the facts from view and for lying about the actual reasons for their actions.
* And finally, it's about the latest decision to hide certain user interests from the list of Most Popular Interests, some of them being fanfiction, bisexuality, sex and depression. This decision was not announced or explained in any way. Users found out for themselves.

If you agree with this please re-post far and wide"

*****
Added to this, are the words of SUP (the new owners of LJ) CEO : Антон Носик (Anton Nosik)
from http://www.izbrannoe.info/30184.html
Translation:
"In this situation, where they attempt to blackmail and to intimidate us, threatening to destroy our business, there is a business-reason not to reward this behavior. This is not the simple reaction of being more resistant the more pressure is applied. The fact is that through history no successful enterprise runs by being subjugated by unfriendly forces. No change, even the most correct one, will not experience some resistance.

It would probably be best to reconsider the recent changes. But from our point of view it is now necessary to wait until after the boycott has faded. Let it pass and have the voices of protest fade. Then we can consider changing this policy."


Post copied from bertiedav

Sun 02  Mar 2008|@ 1:42pm

If you read this and think it is directed at you - it probably is. All of you. (nobody on my FList!)

You go through life and you meet many different people along the way... some of them you spend more time with than others. I believe it is a mixture of fate, circumstance and compatibility. As you grow up it's the survival of the fittest - you fall out, you make up or you move on. Some people appear to be someone they are not - but over time (and it really is a matter of time) their true colours start to show.

I'm a difficult person to get to know - I'm shy around strangers and it takes a lot of effort from others to break that down. I do it partly so I can begin to evaluate the person before they can get to know me. I want to know if we are compatible as people. I'm far from perfect, but I try to improve myself. I'm lazy, selfish, bitchy, highly strung. I don't voice my opinions as often as I should and I hate confrontation. I'm in a constant battle with my moods. I don't sleep well. I'm irritable and it doesn't really take much to piss me off. I overreact. I'm self destructive. These are just a few of my flaws. But I have realised that I am loved for who I am - the good and the bad. And I love people for who they really are - if they will let me see who they really are.

I don't see the point in hiding behind a facade. You cannot change yourself to make someone love you, because eventually they will find out who you really are. It is loving a lie. Maybe you're so messed up you don't even know you're changing. Do you even know who you really are?

Similarly, if you try to twist things to manipulate someone, they will eventually see through you. Would you want someone to be miserable because you were restricting their freedom? If you do these things I hope you can live with yourself for the hurt and pain you cause others. Perhaps you get off on the power you have over them, or maybe you are not even aware you are doing it. If the latter is the case then you don't really know yourself very well... and if you don't know yourself, how can you accept yourself and allow yourself to love others to the best of your ability?

Real friends are those that look out for you, that will side with you and support you in a disagreement. They have your back. They aren't going to cut you out of their life because they don't agree with a decision you have made (that doesn't involve them) or because they suddenly think that you're below them. They will listen to you when you talk to them about serious matters, or your feelings - and not just out of duty. They listen because they want to listen - they genuinely want to know and help. They don't want to know just because they don't know. They let you have your freedom - they don't try to keep tabs on you and know your every move, just because they need something to do or because they're afraid you might have done something omgz without them - how rude!!!!!!!!!1. They do not expect to be invited anywhere but are pleased when they are. They apologise and mean it - because they know they have done wrong and they feel badly about what they've done to the other person, not because they need to apologise so that nobody hates them or whatever. A friend is not someone who mothers you, who carries you from A to B and does everything for you. A friend should be your equal. A friend is someone you respect...and you don't take advantage of someone you respect.

Yeah I could go on forever in this entry... there are some people that are so wrong they are BEYOND putting right.

But above all I try to treat people as how I wish to be treated. Equally, if someone starts treating me in an unfair way my behaviour towards them will change. I hold grudges and I don't forgive and forget easily. It's maybe not a good quality in myself but at the same time I use it as a way of filtering out the crap people from the good ones.

I've been hurt, angered, sickened and disgusted by some of the people I have known over the last few years. Those people are STILL in denial, hiding from the reality. But if you cannot accept what you've done and take responsibility for it how will you ever progress and evolve as a person? The funny thing is that these people are so delusional that they have told themselves something so many times they now believe they are in the right and have chosen to reject anything that might suggest otherwise.

But everything comes back to you eventually. You can try as much as you can to escape who you are and what you've done - most of the time we do this by distracting ourselves with work, entertainment and spending time with other people. However, this is only a temporary fix. You can't hide from your true self.

Sun 23  Dec 2007|@ 3:02am

Mon 16  Apr 2007|@ 5:04pm - Subject: The Clarele guide to being a decent human being...

Some truths y'all...apparently some people are ignorant...

Just because somebody talks about sex does not mean they are a slut.
Just because somebody enjoys having sex that does not make them a whore.
Just because somebody has cheated in the past does not make them a habitual cheat.
Just because somebody is bisexual does not mean that they are either a/ greedy or b/ a slut.
Just because somebody is attracted to some members of the same sex does not mean they are attracted to all members of that sex.
Just because somebody can appreciate that somebody else is attractive does not mean they fancy them.
Just because you turn someone down, it does not mean you're frigid or afraid of sex.
Just because you've said 'sorry' doesn't mean that you have fixed your mistake.
Just because somebody is acting like a bitch doesn't mean they are acting like one for no reason.
Just because you converse with somebody does not mean that you are their friend.
Just because somebody made the mistake of getting wasted doesn't mean you can take advantage of them for your own selfish reasons.
Just because somebody drinks does not make them an alcoholic.
Just because somebody isn't outwardly telling you to fuck off doesn't mean they don't want you to fuck off.
Trust has to be earnt, it is not given by default.
A person is not defined by their sexuality, job, race, religion, appearance or past trauma.
Giving money to charity just so that you feel better about yourself is not a good deed.
Deciding not to take sides when you know which side is the right one does not make you a good person, it makes you a two-faced coward.
Asking if you've done something wrong suggests you know you have done something wrong.
You should not have to be told what you have done wrong as it should be obvious, and if it isn't obvious then clearly you do not analyse yourself and your actions enough.
If you don't accept resonsibilty for your own actions, you won't gain any respect from anyone else.
There are some things which cannot be fixed.
There is NO friendship without respect.
Being fake is a waste of everybody's time.
You cannot take without giving something in return.
Just because people laugh at your "jokes" doesn't mean you are funny.
If you didn't pay for it, don't expect to have it.
Thinking better of somebody just because they have had some kind of bad accident/illness/other trauma makes you kind of sick.
If somebody is dead and you didn't give two shit about them when they were alive, don't pretend to care now they are gone.
Changing yourself to make yourself more compatible with another person is a recipe for disaster and says more about your own low self esteem than anything else.
You can't attempt to understand another person until you have understood yourself.
Being spoilt is not an excuse to look down on people who do are not as fortunate as yourself.
One personality trait does not define a whole personality.
It is no good pointing out your flaws if you don't actively try and fix them.
If you don't like my best friend then you don't like me and if you don't like me you don't like my best friend.
If you insult the people I love, you are insulting me.
Judging somebody for some things that you have been guilty of in the recent past makes you a hypocrite.
Judging somebodys partner for some things that your own partner has been guilty of (or similar) also makes you a hypocrite.

If you don't agree with the above list, then you and I are not compatible as people.

Thu 22  Jun 2006|@ 1:44pm

Fri 09  Sep 2005|@ 2:51pm - Subject: !!!

I just realised I made my 1,500th Livejournal post this week. I spend too much time on here :-p