I’ve never figured out how to be a “back and forth” dater. My heart has always told me that there is something innately wrong with dating multiple people at once — Kissing one person one night only to switch it up the following evening.

I tried this half-heartedly about a month ago.

A friend was in town. We met another friend in Tempe for dinner and, somewhat as a joke, somewhat as a test of my mojo, I left my number on a piece of paper for the waiter. We headed back to Central Phoenix where my car proceeded to breakdown after I, through no fault of my own, drove over a curb. My Knight in Shining Armor that evening was offering (via text message) to leave work on a rescue mission and while I swooned, the waiter texted me at the same time.

I felt disgusting.

About a week later I tried to disguise my disgust with myself by gussying up and agreeing to go out to dinner with said waiter. Much to my dismay (relief?) it turned out to be the worst date I’ve ever ALMOST gone on since it ended before I even left the house. That night my only date was with Seamus McCaffery’s, a good friend, and amazingly greasy fish and chips.

Serves me right.

There is something to be said about Dating Karma. You get what you give, I spose. I thought that with all of the giving I did I had some leverage to try something that I hadn’t done before — what Carrie Bradshaw would call “dating like a guy”. But, that night I proved to myself that my initial instincts were right. It feels wrong because it IS wrong.

If I like someone, I am going to like them until I don’t. Sounds silly but it’s true. If you find yourself with a wandering eye in a dating situation, there is a reason for it. Something is lacking and until you find out what that something is, you are going to go out looking for it. It’s why people cheat. It’s why people “casually date”. Not to say that it’s a bad thing — it’s just a good way to hurt someone you may care about and a good way to get hurt yourself.

I’m working diligently, although admittedly not very effectively, on saying and doing exactly what I mean. I’ve wavered on my stance with dating games in the past but this year I can say that I’ve grown to understand that they are not effective unless you are honest with yourself and your partner — in which case, it’s no longer a game.You have to be clear about what you want and under what circumstances you are willing to get it. And when you know what these circumstances are, you can’t falter. I’m absolutely horrible with this. I’m too often willing to settle for less than what I know I deserve — Too willing to take a small sliver of the pie if I can’t have my half. I find myself catering to other people’s needs instead of my own and while it may be an admirable quality to some, I end up feeling drained and a bit disoriented in the process.

Unfortunately, these days, I am finding myself between the rock of poor timing and the hard place of someone who seems to have genuine respect for me and who can’t seem to disappoint me even if I wish he would. For all the awful guys I have met in the past, why couldn’t the currently-unavailable one be the worst of them all?

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Here's a taste of what's coming to a theatre near you (space won't allow a full list) including some buzzworthy flicks that will be introduced at the Toronto International Film Festival next month.

Remember studios often make last-minute changes to movie release dates, so check local listings.



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Brendan Fehr: Samurai Dad

Roswell's former brooding alien, 30, plays a ninja on ABC Family's Samurai Girl (Sept. 5-7). At home, his role is father to a 5-month-old.


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Source: September 8, 2008 issue of People magazine

Many celebrities believe that the world will end in 2012.



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well if joe rogan believes it, it must be true

girls in the next room talking about politics, words like, "it just blows my mind" about some career move that our country is all eyes about, but you read it off some banner on the internet and sure go ahead and talk all you want but until i see you get out that door and hold up those sings or until i see you go into that court room and change a law or two, you're just blowing smoke out, hot air that's making the smog blend in with my air faster and i've been having lung trouble so i wish you could wrap your thrift store nails around something heavier, maybe you could take up skydiving.

Their new ad for the signature fragrance that will be released in September.


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What do Christian Bale and Kermit the Frog have in common? More than you might realize... (and yes, clearly I have far too much time on my hands.)



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Trailer for episode one, on September 18. Hard-fucking-core.



And episode one stills! 

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Best show in the history of television. No, not really. But I love it.

Sophie Monk’s wearing shorts, I guess she’s slowly trying to get sluttier and sluttier because we all know that girls who wear anything above the knees are just asking to get fucked, it’s been a key defense in rape cases for decades, and the reason she is doing it is because her self esteem was raped when her boyfriend left her for Paris Hilton, that’s kinda like when your favorite stripper gets mad at you for getting a lap dance with the old fat chick no one in their right mind wants because she leaves shit stains on your freshly pressed khakis or some shit. It’s going from good to bad, leaving the good thinking they are worse than the bad and when the bad is Paris Hilton shit’s detrimental to your mental health, at least that’s what I am thinking. It’s kind of the way every guy feels when they find out that I banged their girlfriend at some point in their life, they feel like something is wrong with them for dating something that got with me and it always gives me a laugh because I know it true and when you get over the truth hurting bullshit, you realize that in the end you still got laid, and that’s a whole lot more rewarding than people thinking you’re disgusting.
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What would Kim Kardashian do to stay warm?

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When first looking at "Repo! The Genetic Opera," certain folks might tuck their tails between their legs and run, but look closer and you'll find a dedicated cast and crew who ooze love for this project distributed by Lionsgate.

Directing is "Saw II, III, IV" helmer Darren Lynn Bousman (not the fifth and latest film), well fitted for the task at hand of capturing the essence of the musical-adapted film.

True, there's a lot of media attention surrounding Paris Hilton. You'll probably be asking yourself "Why Paris Hilton out of every actress to fit the role?" In truth, after speaking to Ms. Hilton at the interview, I found her to be very down-to-earth and a much more calm person than she may have been in her previous years. There's a certain shyness to Ms. Hilton despite being in the limelight so often and, turns out, she's actually a very sweet person.

Alexa Vega has certainly matured since her "Spy Kids" flicks, gone is the little girl but the bubbly personality looks in-tact. She's well-spoken and comes off as an intelligent girl with a keen eye on her future.

At first it's Darren Smith (writer) and Alexa Vega (Shilo Wallace). After which, they are followed by Bill Moseley (Luigi Largo), Paris Hilton (Amber Sweet), Darren Lynn Bousman (Director), Terrance Zdunich (Grave Robber and Co-Writer) and Nivek Ogre.

Writer Darren Smith and Actress Alexa Vega

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Actor and Co-Writer Terrance Zdunich, Actor Bill Moseley, Musician/Actor Nivek Ogre

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Director Darren Lynn Bousman and Actress Paris Hilton

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Selena Gomez, 15, spilled to Popstar! about how much she enjoyed working with her Another Cinderella Story love interest Drew Seeley, 26.

"Drew was great. He was someone I could lean on and to this day he's still my favorite co-star that I've ever worked with and I'm not just saying that because he's in the room."

What was it like filling Hilary Duff's glass slipper?

"I Was OBSESSED with that movie. I love it, I completely loved that movie. I was a little nervous about taking on that role, but it's like our twist, our version of the Cinderella story.

Did you have a crush on Chad Michael Murray?

"I wanted to marry him. I really did. I had a shirt that said, 'Chad Michael Marry Me.'"

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