Why do people who oppose gay marriage don't also oppose divorce?

Jian will be here in 10 days!! I'm so excited! Right now he is in Indiana, with Lance, and unfortunately the internet out there is terrible. We haven't been able to skype at all! He did send me a really sweet [series] of texts:

"'You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before; she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect, you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together. But if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze, and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there' -Bob Marley"


I don't think he'll ever know what those words mean to me. :)

My best friend is Manda. We've been friends since we met my freshman (her sophomore) year in high school, 9 years ago. When I first met Manda, I was really super quiet. Most of my friends from middle school went to another high school, so I was ultimately trying to make new friends entirely on my own. It was nerve-wrecking, and pair that with my already quiet persona in groups, and you have difficulties making friends. Freshman year, I immediately joined the drama club, and was really enthralled with the main group. They were all so outgoing and close, and I wanted to be in a group like that. Manda was one of the "leaders". She wasn't shy and tended to be the center of attention. She was one of those people who just had an aura of cool, never having to try too hard, because she was just herself. I was super intimidated, and when I get intimidated, I get quieter. Needless to say, me and Manda didn't become close freshman year.

Sophomore year, a few of us, including Manda, started working at Cold Stone Creamery. We had an awful lot of fun, but still, Manda intimidated the hell out of me. One weekend was jam-packed, between work, play rehearsals, someone's birthday, and a trip to the springs. Since I was the youngest in the group, I didn't have my license yet. Manda offered me a place on her couch that weekend, since I lived too far out of the way to drive to for all of these events, and we had the same work schedule. I was thrilled! It would be my first alone time, and maybe we could open up to each other! By the end of the weekend, we were best friends! I even told her that she intimidated me, and she actually told me that I intimidated her! She had always been intimidated by quiet people, because you never know what they're thinking. Her defense mechanism was to become more boisterous, whereas mine was to become mute. I am so thankful for that weekend.

The day of her high school graduation was also the day she moved 2,500 miles away. I was absolutely terrified that I would lose her forever. She now lives 2,800 miles away, but it doesn't matter. We have remained best friends, even though we've only seen each other 3 times in person since she moved. That last time was for her wedding, in which I was a bridesmaid. =)

Happiness is falling asleep while on webcam, and waking up to the same person, still on webcam. There's definitely comfort in sleeping and waking up with Jian, even if he's not physically here.

Man! I wish I could kick this cold! I feel so miserable and stuffy. =(


On a kind of good note, my vacation time got screwed up because of some payroll issue, and I have to push my vacation back a week. After talking it over with Jian, we decided that he's still going to arrive on the initial 18th of September, like we were planning. He's going to hang around an do stuff that needs to be taken care of for his move to Florida! I get to take my vacation starting on the 26th for two weeks. This means, instead of two weeks, I get three whole weeks with Jian! =D


Besides that, not much has been going on. I'm sick, so I haven't gone anywhere. Chelsea is almost completely moved in, and we're working on decorating.

I'm sensing a beach day coming up as soon as this cold is gone! =D

Things have been awesome lately! Last Tuesday Jian came to visit, and we had a blast! I could go on and on about that day, but really, all you need to know is that he is perfect. His best friend, Lance, is freaking awesome as well. The whole day we were laughing or being cutesy. I loved it! He's already been counting down the days for when he comes to visit in September. 68 days from now I will have him for two whole weeks! I'm even taking my vacation for it. We both will only have to worry about our school work, and that's all. =)

Chelsea, my coworker and friend, has moved into the townhouse to take Zach's place. So far it has been going well! I don't see her too often at home, but when I do we just chill. I think we're going to have a wine/dinner night with a few of our other coworkers as a housewarming gig. It'll be great!

My friend Kasey is supposed to come by this weekend to show me how to sew. Greg got me a sewing machine for Christmas, and I still haven't figured out how to use the thing. Hahah! We're going to do drinks and cupcakes too!

slkhfshiauhrfheih! I get to see Jian tomorrow! It's my only day with him until our vacation in September. I'm super excited to see him! I get to meet his best friend Lance. Chelsea's going to come with me, so Lance doesn't feel like the third wheel. If I were you, I would expect a ton of pictures by Wednesday! =D

Two-hundred and thirty-five years ago, our founding father's had a vision. They risked their lives to meet, and discuss a new order. At these meetings, the Declaration of Independence was drafted, and by the end of January 1777, fifty-six people had signed their names. What did this really mean, though? After all, it was only a piece of paper. But it was this piece of paper that symbolized rebellion and traitorous beliefs and action against England. It symbolized hope for a better way of life. It symbolized freedom. It was this piece of paper that catalyzed the Revolutionary War. It was just a piece of paper to England, but to the colonists, it meant everything.

We have fought in many wars since then. Countless men and women have sacrificed their lives to protect the very freedom our earliest leaders acquired for us. But what happens to those soldiers that don't fall overseas; some, instead, fall into the hands of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). One in five suicides in the United States is committed by a military veteran. Tweny-seven veterans a day take their own lives.

This past Memorial Day weekend, my friend Brian was one of them. He was a sniper for the U.S. Army, and he did two tours in Iraq. He was blown up twelve times in the Bradleys (tanks). He lost friends, comrades. There was one death he felt immense guilt for, as the person who died was a friend that switched seats with him just minutes before the explosion. Obviously, I can't know all the details of what happened overseas. What I do know, is that he formally asked the Army for help, relating to his PTSD, in April. The Army wrote back to him, and scheduled an appointment for October. Unfortunately, he didn't make it those six months.

There is a petition out right now, that is aiming to improve "grief counseling", re-entry programs, and support groups for our troops. It only takes a minute to fill out, and it could potentially save lives.

If you'd like to sign this petition, please use the link below:

http://www.petition2congress.com/3256/three-point-program-to-address-military-stress-related-issues/

Jian: I'm crazy about you
I want you to know that


Me: I'm crazy about you too Jian.

Jian: like
I haven't felt this way about someone in a long time
I generally push people away
But you broke through that with no issues

Me: Ok. You just made me tear up. In a good way


Jian: I really do like you alot babe


Me: I haven't felt this happy, and giddy, and open in a long time. But this even feels different

Jian: And if things go as well when i see you as they do right now
I think we'll be golden


Me: I think you're right.




Yes, I know we're gag-worthingly adorable. I love it! =D

We were talking about our ideal person.


[6/28/2011 10:58:37 PM] Jian: Like lower 5 feet
[6/28/2011 10:58:42 PM] Julie: I'm 5'4
[6/28/2011 10:58:44 PM] Jian: Tan skin
[6/28/2011 10:58:47 PM] Julie: I'm tan
[6/28/2011 10:58:52 PM] Jian: Curvy
[6/28/2011 10:59:00 PM] Julie: I have hips
[6/28/2011 10:59:03 PM] Jian: Have that cute appearance
[6/28/2011 10:59:08 PM] Julie: I'm adorable




[6/28/2011 10:59:59 PM] Jian: I've found that girls similar to you
[6/28/2011 10:59:59 PM] Jian: Fit me better
[6/28/2011 11:00:23 PM] Jian: I like independent girls
[6/28/2011 11:00:24 PM] Jian: Someone who will call me out on my shit
[6/28/2011 11:00:27 PM] Jian: But not in a bitchy way. More out of love.
[6/28/2011 11:00:47 PM] Jian: Like "hey babe. you're acting like a real bitch right now. grow some balls....loveeeee...youuuu"
[6/28/2011 11:00:53 PM] Jian: That type of way
[6/28/2011 11:00:56 PM] Julie: I would never say that
[6/28/2011 11:01:02 PM] Jian: I know
[6/28/2011 11:01:09 PM] Julie: I would tell you to stop being a little bitch and get over it
[6/28/2011 11:01:09 PM] Julie: hahah
[6/28/2011 11:01:13 PM] Jian: HAHAHA