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[02 Jan 2006|08:46pm] |
My fifteen year old sister reads Girlfriend magazine and treats herself completely like an object. There is nothing I can do about it so I took a deep breath and started to flick through one to see how much it has changed since I was a teen. These are some of my findings:
This was a letter sent to a Q and A page. It was titled Lesbian Deception.
Q. I talked my friend into acting like we were lesbians to scare the boys. She played along, but when she found out that I really felt that way she stopped talking to me.
A. I think that the issue here is one of honesty as well as sexuality. You lead your friend on and I suggest she's probably not talking to you because you didn't give her a choice. You should apologise to her for misusing her trust. With regard to your sexual preference you will find that during your adolescence you'll have crushes on various people maybe of different genders. The trick is knowing which ones to act on. And it is only fair to be upfront about your intentions.
Another letter on the same page titled Sexual Slumber Party.
Q. When I was at my friend's slumber party we were all sleeping on the floor and my friend started to feel my boobs. I really liked it but now I'm unsure how I feel about her. How can I know for sure if I am heterosexual or a lesbian? I feel so confused.
A. You enjoyed someone fondling your breasts. This is entirely normal and gives no indication of your sexual preference. Sexual orientation is about which gender you are attracted to. This will not be decided by a one off occurence like this one. During adolescence you may find you have all sorts of feelings and attractions but your sexual orientation will become clear to you as you develop. Don't worry.
So if you are a girl and you have feelings for girls, doubt them at all costs because it is just your teenage hormones and you'll get over that when you 'develop'. And if you have feelings for your friend and you work up the courage to make them known then you ought to be ashamed of yourself for leading her on. But 'don't worry' because your rightful feelings for the opposite sex will assert itself in time.
It is hardly even ironic that these messages are being published alongside tons of pictures of semi-naked and completely objectified women. Women have to consider themselves and all other women as sex objects but not for personal consumption.
I'm still holding out the hope that my sister is a lesbian. I turned my 17 year old brother into a bisexual so I just have to work a little harder on turning my sister.
Oh, and Girlfriend magazines are just as scary as I remembered.
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