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omg i hope i get this job at the chicago symphony orchestra. it's downtown, AND i get to be all ~*music nerdy*~ there, haha.
i wish saic had a band or something. i'm going to miss being in the citywide band/orchestra competitions. my clarinet is collecting dust in the corner of my room. :[
decided to do a meme joce had up....
♠ Choose a singer/band/group
♠ Answer using ONLY titles of songs by that singer/band/group
♠ Tag 7 more people.
meh. whoever wants to do it, do it. :]
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[20 Aug 2008|08:11am] |
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dang. i need to start exercising again. i'm starting to feel sluggish and lazy. and i'm scared that i gained back the weight (and inches) i lost. :[
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| ani raw n uncut |
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| So here's my deal |
[19 Aug 2008|01:00pm] |
Hello all, longtime lurker/first time poster here.
So here's my deal. I'm in a committed relationship with a fellow I met about six and a half months ago. I gave him my virginity and he is the only person I've ever slept with. He had had sex about 25 times when we started sleeping together. Once we started, it became apparent that my sexual appetite is vicious and we've done it about 150 times since. I'm also apparently a lot more sexually adventurous than what he's used to.
My issue is that I've never had an orgasm while another person was involved. I've been getting myself off since I was about twelve, but once somebody else gets involved, it's just inexplicably difficult. My partner had given his previous girlfriend orgasms, so I assumed that it would simply be a matter of time before I had one. Wrong move. Once I realized that it wasn't going to happen anytime soon, I started changing my technique during sex so I could just try to get him off as quickly as possible. Wrong move again.
To top it off, we had a conversation several months ago that went like this.
Me: "Sorry to ask but...you do know where the clitoris is, right?"
Him: "No...but I have an educated guess."
So it looks like I'm now in the position of trying to teach him how to get me off and I'm thoroughly confused. Do I use books? Online guides? Video tutorials? I thought that the fact that he was more experienced would mean that I'd be able to learn from him, but it seems to be the other way around. We're currently doing long-distance until we both go back to school and I'm determined to be much more proactive in bed in the coming year, rather than waiting around for an orgasm to suddenly come out of nowhere. If anyone could offer any advice on what to do, it'd be very welcome.
PS. I feel like I should also note that I've never orgasmed from penetration and my clitoris was much more sensitive in my younger days, before I discovered that vibrators and showerheads can contribute to desensitization.
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| No clue how to answer dirty question |
[19 Aug 2008|12:03am] |
If anyone could help me, I'd be so appreciative, though I feel it's too much asking for such specific help, like I'm asking for answers to the homework. I've spent hours here in the memories and researching other places, and I still feel desperate.
My boyfriend loves talking dirty, and I've finally overcome being too shy and embarrassed to talk back. I'm still a little lacking in the creativity department, but what absolutely kills me is my inability to come up with anything to say in response to direct questions:
Nearly every time we're together my boyfriend says something to the effect of "Do you want it?" though with more interesting vocabulary. I always respond similarly to "Oh yeah baby," and then he says "Tell me how badly you want it." The best I've ever come up with? "So bad."
I work hard on the delivery, but it's not making up for the dullness of the answer itself. I feel like such an idiot that I can't seem to come up with anything. How bad at this can I be? I love when he talks dirty to me, and felt guilty that he was doing all the work during the months I couldn't overcome my embarrassment. I don't typically have a problem coming up with things to say anymore, except when they are answers to questions. For some reason I cannot hold a dialog. Maybe I just need practice, but meanwhile this exact question comes up all the time and there's no excuse for the same lame answer 40 times in a row.
The other issue is when he asked me to describe to him how it felt to suck his dick. I love doing it, but I could not think of a single word in the entire English language to explain it. I told him I'd get back to him. He asked again another day, as he is clearly insanely excited to hear the response, and I was just silent. I want to be able to do this so badly! I am no longer embarrassed to say anything, in fact the more vulgar the better, but my imagination completely fails me. Anyone have any suggestions?
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| Is He Just Selfish? |
[18 Aug 2008|12:42am] |
I recently began to have sex with a guy I have been dating for a few months. The last time we had sex I directly told him "I need you to touch me" and put my hand over his to guide him. He did this for about 20 seconds and then moved his hand away. I assumed he'd continue, but he came.
I don't think he has much experience sexually. He's had a lot of one or two-night stands and assumes he's much better in bed than he is. I don't think I'm especially amazing in bed either, but it seems to be over before I get a chance to do anything. He tends to come rather quickly and I don't.
I really like him and am willing to "teach", but never having been in this position before, I'm not sure how to approach the subject. I thought showing him what I needed would be it, but it barely registered in his mind. Is he just selfish? Should I just touch myself? Do I need to be more direct? Any tips on how to discuss this?
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[17 Aug 2008|11:49pm] |
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My boyfriend and I were having a discussion about orgasms and we can't figure out if he's ever had one. I described my orgasms to him, and while he comes, he's not sure that he's ever had the type of "euphoria" that I describe. So I guess my question is: when I guy comes is that his orgasm? And if not how can I give him an orgasm?
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[17 Aug 2008|10:05pm] |
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I've been wanting to try new things with my beau. I read different things, yeah, but I'm just curious. What is your favorite position? Why? Explain.
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| Strip tunes |
[16 Aug 2008|08:23pm] |
Hi, everyone!
I really want to strip for my boyfriend sometime soon - what do you think is the best music to strip to? Do you have favourite songs?
Also: any tips?
Thanks!
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| Tips for oral sex with a condom? |
[18 Aug 2008|10:16pm] |
Hello!
My boyfriend & I have been together for almost seven months. When we first started seeing each other we were both very inexperienced -- indeed, many of our first experiences have been shared together -- so we agreed to take things slowly. This means that we're both still virgins. However, over the past few months we've grown very close and have developed a very satisfying sexual relationship. We're both very comfortable with each other and neither of us has any qualms about discussing sex openly and honestly. We're at the stage now where we both feel ready to have sex but, before we do, we'd both like to get used to using condoms. We have not used condoms before during oral sex as we decided that, since we are each other's first sexual partners, we were prepared to take the risk but we'd like to try now. I think it's important that the first time we use a condom is before the first time we have sex. While I will also be taking the contraceptive pill we want to use a barrier method to decrease the chances of pregnancy further still.
We tried using a condom for the first time the last time I gave him oral sex but it was kiwi-flavoured & bright green. When we put it on him, it made us laugh quite a bit which spoiled the mood a little! I wasn't entirely sure how to go about performing oral sex with a condom. Logically I knew it should pretty much be the same as always but since I often use my hands as well, I was worried about the condon rolling up or coming off. In the end I got a bit frustrated with having to roll it down that I gave up and took it off.
We're determined to persevere with this but I'd like to make it as fun and as enjoyable as possible so I'd appreciate it if you could share any tips for oral sex with a condom.
Many thanks!
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[18 Aug 2008|12:46pm] |
I made the little 'mistake' of telling my boyfriend that I love pinstripes and trench coats, and its even better if they're combined. So what does he do? Goes out and buys a new suit and trench coat. Needless to say, I'm doomed, because there is just something about the two articles that make me weak in the knees and willing for just about anything.
My question is, how can we incorporate the nice long trench coat into sex? There is the obvious using it as a blanket on the ground or as a lap cover. But what about not so obvious ideas? We have no qualms about teasing each other in public and unless someone like my Mother or his baby sister is around, we don't hesitate to reach over for a grab. So, any ideas on how to use this lovely item?
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| i've decided.... |
[18 Aug 2008|12:08pm] |
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lupe fiasco // paris, tokyo |
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 ...that this dude is one of the most influential dudes in hip-hop (i'm not the first one to say this, haha). i'm supremely disappointed that he's going to be releasing his last album next year. hip hop needs him. there's some people trying to compare lupe to wayne, just no. that's like comparing the ability of a typical 1st grader to bill gates. yeah, lil wayne is topping the charts, but his lyricism is nothing compared to lupe. he has substance, and his wordplay and flow is amazing. he's also from my neighborhood, so i might be a little biased. ....nah. i'd think this dude was the real deal, even if he wasn't from the chi. |
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bjork // hyper-ballad |
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You Are 28% Girly
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You are a pretty hardcore tomboy, and a very free spirit.
Gender roles be dammed, you like to do things your way.
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How Girly Are You?i don't know about a hardcore tomboy, but i'm not very girly at all, haha. i hate dresses, i don't have many pink things, i can't stand gossip girl, i don't care about makeup (i hate wearing it. i love my carmex/burt's bees, though. gotta keep my lips ash-free haha), i wear a t-shirt and jeans 99% of the time, etc. the girliest i get is when i have fangirl fits over certain celebrities and wear nail polish (which i love), haha.
but i do agree with the last sentence on this "analysis". i don't care about gender roles - i do things the way i like to do them. :]
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| Tips for Sex w/ Heels On! |
[17 Aug 2008|04:47pm] |
Well, like a lot of lurkers-first-time-posters, I've browsed the memories (extensively...so many good tips in there!) and I haven't found anything on this particular subject. If there is and I just happened to miss it, I apologize.
I'm in a long-distance relationship with my boy, until later this year, but I'm lucky in that we get to see each other at least twice a month. One of these visits soon, I'm planning on surprising him with skimpy lingerie and this pair of white high-heels (he hasn't seen them on me before, but after he glanced in the closet, made a comment to the effect of how good they'd look up in the air...I kind of figure it'll be awesome for his first memory of me in those to, in fact, see them up in the air).
Any tips on wearing heels during sex? What to be careful about, maybe where to position your feet so that you don't A) kick your boy and B) break an ankle, in particular?
Thanks in advance!
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[17 Aug 2008|12:49pm] |
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the shanghai restoration project // miss saigon |
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man. i need a touch up. i have so MUCH new growth. it's cool to feel what my natural texture is like. it's weird though because on the right front side of my head, my hair is like, 3c/4a, and the rest of my hair 4b.
i'm sure there's few people on my f-list that know what i'm talking about so this is what 3c, 4a and 4b
so yeahhh. my hair is a combination of those three. :P
i usually go to the salon to get my hair done, but we're trying to save money. i think i'm just gonna go to the corner store, get some boxes of relaxer for 14 dollars, and do my hair, 'cause it'll be WAY less than going to the salon.
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| Just curious. |
[17 Aug 2008|12:15pm] |
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I was wondering if anyone knew of statistics/a website with statistics on the sex lives of long-term couples? I'm looking for stuff like, percentages of couples who enjoy sex after X years, percentage of couples whom have had extramarital affairs, etc.
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| The Joys of Moving |
[17 Aug 2008|06:51am] |
So I really need to start packing my shit and cleaning so I can move. But for some reason...I've been lagging. The thing is, I don't have a lot of stuff, so the actual packing won't be a problem. It's just that for some reason I have been extremely lazy when it comes to this packing shit. Oh it might also be because I haven't heard back from the people that I'm renting from even though I already made my deposit. I'm supposed to move in by Tuesday but I can't if I don't hear back from someone. I know that right now I'm just being annoying. She's probably extremely busy.
I'm calling in two and a half hours and someone better pick up or call me back. I'd like to have my shit together so I can move as quickly and easily as possible.
In other news: There is nothing to report. I'm moving. My new computer is bad ass and I'm sleepy. That is all.
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| Did I come? |
[16 Aug 2008|02:32am] |
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I'm familiar with my clitoral orgasms, but I've never had a vaginal one until few times recently, I think. It didn't fee like an orgasm, just sort of a quiet climaxing feel during sex. After it though, I loose sensitivity for a while and can't even tell if he's in me, like a vagina cotton mouth. Later, though, it just feels different. He said he supposedly felt those vaginal convulsions that signify an orgasm. Did I come? Should I do kegels to intensify this, because this feels like a disappointing finish.
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