Are You in Love...
or Forcing It?
Baby, you have something more precious than diamonds: totally legit love. If he were to dump you tomorrow (the horror!), you'd mourn his scent, his kisses, even his completely ridiculous sense of humor. In fact, you're so enamored, you'd still be rip-his-pants-off attracted to him even if he lost his job or his looks took a nosedive. "You feel such a deep sense of adulation and respect for your partner that you're sure you can grow and change and your love won't dip," says Nancy Rosenbach, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in New York City and Long Island. "That kind of confidence comes from letting a relationship develop at its own speed. And if you do wind up marrying this person, you know it won't be about planning the wedding and all the romance that surrounds it. It will be about the privilege of having this amazing man with you for life."
Another sign you're smitten: In addition to being sexually electrified by him, you don't need anyone else singing his praises -- whether he's considered a catch by your friends or family is completely irrelevant. As long as you're content, that's what counts. "The fact that you don't have to ask your friends to verify that you're a great couple means you're totally secure in the relationship," says Rosenbach. Plus, you don't really feel jealous or competitive with friends who are moving faster than you are on their couple track. Because let's face it: You know what you have feels right, and all those fabulous we're-in-it-forever milestones will eventually happen. "When a person is legitimately in love, she's not trying to live up to other people's ideals of what the perfect relationship should be," says Bonnie Eaker Weil, Ph.D., a relationship therapist in New York City and author of Make Up, Don't Break Up. "You trust the strong emotions you feel in your gut, and that is all that matters."