This metaquote entry and the article that started it both piss me off so much. And in different ways.
First of all, all you Pro-Choice gals? Get over yourself. Yes, I think abortion should be legal and that it should be an option. No, I do not think it is your God-given right to do whatever the hell you want with your own body just because you can. Sacrificing the life of an unborn child because it's your last option, the lesser of two (or three) evils? Okay. Doing the same because the child is the 'unwanted' result of your bad decisions? Not okay. In case you've forgotten, there is one 100% effective form of birth control: abstinence. It's only failed once in history, at most. If you are serious about not getting pregnant because it's a 'bad time' or what not - don't have sex. Just like a guy doesn't need to 'stick it in,' neither do you. You do it anyway, get ready for the consequences.
The metaquote argument...oh, god, so many things wrong with that.
Get to know who you're fucking, and if her stance on reproductive rights doesn't mesh with yours, don't put it in her.
As I said before, this goes both ways honey. You can't make a baby with one person and if you and your partner can't handle the possible consequences, I don't care if its your body or not, don't go throwing into someone else's bed. (Or your own with someone else in it, for that matter.)
There are worse STDs out there than parenthood, so have the damn self-respect it takes to protect yourself.
Again, two way street, hon. Don't let something not wrapped up go in ya.
That's just the way it's got to be, man. Does it make you uncomfortable? To feel like you're not entirely in control of the sexual proceedings? Welcome to a woman's world. Suck it up.
Seems to me the author isn't thinking that the women should do much 'sucking up', just the men. WTF, mate? The condom broke and now you're preggers? Welcome to your own world. And guess what, you are in control of the sexual proceedings. You didn't have to have sex with him! So suck it up and deal with your decisions, because unless sex was forced on you (entirely different situation) then you've already made your choice.
But the article! My god! That's just an open invitation for abuse and pissed-off, jilted lovers to get revenge. For confusion and mis-management. For bad situations made so much worse. Your heart's in the right place, whoever made up that proposal, but you took it a few steps too far.
A man should have a say in what happens to his baby. That's half his genetic material. After birth, it's as much his kid as it is the mother's. Maybe the guy doesn't mind if his partner gets an abortion because he also doesn't want the kid. (In which case, I hate them both but can't do anything) But maybe he does. Maybe he's as disgusted by the idea of flushing away a human life as I am and would gladly (or at least willingly) take full custody of the child. As surprising to the feminists as it is, yes, there are guys who would do that. I know some of them. And I know I know some of them because after reading this article I went outside and asked all the guys I could find. Not all would take the kid, but about half would, if it was between that and abortion.
So here's what I think the solution is. Scrap that proposal you've got. New law: A man does not need to give consent for a woman to get an abortion, but he does need to be told. If he decides to, he can speak up to stop the abortion. If he stops the abortion, he takes the kid. Full custody. You want the kid, you get the whole nine yards. But give them that option.
Not exactly perfect, but in a perfect world people wouldn't be sleeping around getting all these STDs and unwanted prenancies in the first place.
Edit: So, after writing this entry I went and read the source journal entry, wich is much longer than the metaquote entry. Lots of subtlties in this issue. The author starts out and I'm in agreement with her, about not agreeing with abortion but not thinking it should be illegat, but then she gets to the law. And the last paragraph sums up what I think the crux of the problem is:
Don't like abortion? Don't have one. Don't want her to have one? Don't stick it in her.
Why is that so hard to understand?
Because this isn't about abortion. It has never been about abortion. It has never been about wee unborn babes or faith, or family or any of that. It is about control, and about making sure men keep it, and that women never have it, and if they try to have it, they must be punished and brought back into line.
Bull shit. Not on my watch.
First of all, the don't want, don't have, don't stick argument? Again with the two way street.
Second, paranoid much? Sure, I can't speak for all men (I'm not even one myself) and I can't get in the heads of the guys who wrote the law but...seriously, what the fuck? Do you really think someone made this law thinking "Oh no, the women are getting too powerful. What can we do to beat them back into the kitchen?" Again I say: Get over yourself. If a guy wants to have some sort of control or say over whether his kid lives or dies I think that's a valid concern. Think it's unfair, seeing as it's your uterus and all? Well, I think it's unfair that my bone-structure is too narrow to carry as much muscle as a male and thus I can't lift as much.
Biology is a bitch. Deal with it.
Or, in your own words, Suck it up.