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'For God and Country' my ass

August 31st, 2007 (05:52 am)

In the past fifteen months:

My best friend graduated from college.
My Grandpa Chappy died.
My sister broke up with her long-standing BF, and then got a new one.
My little brother got taller than me.
My little brother got braces.
My little brother got a drivers license.
My mom finished the cabinets, a project that has cluttered the garage for four years.
My grandma retired.
My step-dad got promoted.
Laura spent her last year working with A-Kon.
At least four cons that I wanted to attend took place, and one I didn't, which was the only one I got to go to.
A friend of mine struggled once again with a drug problem, and finaly went into rehab.

And best of all:
On September 8 my cousin is getting married. The first of my generation of grandkids, my very first best friend, a young woman I don't see eye-to-eye with but whom I love very dearly, and she's getting married.

I've missed all of it.

Proof that you don't actually have to die to 'give your life for your country.' And in return I've gotten back...stale candy and joint pain.

Yeah. Gonna be bitter over this one for a while.

_thelady_ [userpic]

(no subject)

August 3rd, 2007 (09:29 pm)

This metaquote entry and the article that started it both piss me off so much. And in different ways.

First of all, all you Pro-Choice gals? Get over yourself. Yes, I think abortion should be legal and that it should be an option. No, I do not think it is your God-given right to do whatever the hell you want with your own body just because you can. Sacrificing the life of an unborn child because it's your last option, the lesser of two (or three) evils? Okay. Doing the same because the child is the 'unwanted' result of your bad decisions? Not okay. In case you've forgotten, there is one 100% effective form of birth control: abstinence. It's only failed once in history, at most. If you are serious about not getting pregnant because it's a 'bad time' or what not - don't have sex. Just like a guy doesn't need to 'stick it in,' neither do you. You do it anyway, get ready for the consequences.

The metaquote argument...oh, god, so many things wrong with that.

Get to know who you're fucking, and if her stance on reproductive rights doesn't mesh with yours, don't put it in her.
As I said before, this goes both ways honey. You can't make a baby with one person and if you and your partner can't handle the possible consequences, I don't care if its your body or not, don't go throwing into someone else's bed. (Or your own with someone else in it, for that matter.)

There are worse STDs out there than parenthood, so have the damn self-respect it takes to protect yourself.
Again, two way street, hon. Don't let something not wrapped up go in ya.

That's just the way it's got to be, man. Does it make you uncomfortable? To feel like you're not entirely in control of the sexual proceedings? Welcome to a woman's world. Suck it up.
Seems to me the author isn't thinking that the women should do much 'sucking up', just the men. WTF, mate? The condom broke and now you're preggers? Welcome to your own world. And guess what, you are in control of the sexual proceedings. You didn't have to have sex with him! So suck it up and deal with your decisions, because unless sex was forced on you (entirely different situation) then you've already made your choice.

Bitch.

But the article! My god! That's just an open invitation for abuse and pissed-off, jilted lovers to get revenge. For confusion and mis-management. For bad situations made so much worse. Your heart's in the right place, whoever made up that proposal, but you took it a few steps too far.

A man should have a say in what happens to his baby. That's half his genetic material. After birth, it's as much his kid as it is the mother's. Maybe the guy doesn't mind if his partner gets an abortion because he also doesn't want the kid. (In which case, I hate them both but can't do anything) But maybe he does. Maybe he's as disgusted by the idea of flushing away a human life as I am and would gladly (or at least willingly) take full custody of the child. As surprising to the feminists as it is, yes, there are guys who would do that. I know some of them. And I know I know some of them because after reading this article I went outside and asked all the guys I could find. Not all would take the kid, but about half would, if it was between that and abortion.

So here's what I think the solution is. Scrap that proposal you've got. New law: A man does not need to give consent for a woman to get an abortion, but he does need to be told. If he decides to, he can speak up to stop the abortion. If he stops the abortion, he takes the kid. Full custody. You want the kid, you get the whole nine yards. But give them that option.

Not exactly perfect, but in a perfect world people wouldn't be sleeping around getting all these STDs and unwanted prenancies in the first place.

Edit: So, after writing this entry I went and read the source journal entry, wich is much longer than the metaquote entry. Lots of subtlties in this issue. The author starts out and I'm in agreement with her, about not agreeing with abortion but not thinking it should be illegat, but then she gets to the law. And the last paragraph sums up what I think the crux of the problem is:

Don't like abortion? Don't have one. Don't want her to have one? Don't stick it in her.

Why is that so hard to understand?

Because this isn't about abortion. It has never been about abortion. It has never been about wee unborn babes or faith, or family or any of that. It is about control, and about making sure men keep it, and that women never have it, and if they try to have it, they must be punished and brought back into line.

Bull shit. Not on my watch.


First of all, the don't want, don't have, don't stick argument? Again with the two way street.

Second, paranoid much? Sure, I can't speak for all men (I'm not even one myself) and I can't get in the heads of the guys who wrote the law but...seriously, what the fuck? Do you really think someone made this law thinking "Oh no, the women are getting too powerful. What can we do to beat them back into the kitchen?" Again I say: Get over yourself. If a guy wants to have some sort of control or say over whether his kid lives or dies I think that's a valid concern. Think it's unfair, seeing as it's your uterus and all? Well, I think it's unfair that my bone-structure is too narrow to carry as much muscle as a male and thus I can't lift as much.

Biology is a bitch. Deal with it.

Or, in your own words, Suck it up.

Bitch.

_thelady_ [userpic]

(no subject)

July 1st, 2007 (09:59 am)

Now, I've had some strange dreams in my day. Some really strange dreams. Hell, just recently I dreamed I was naked and with other naked people and didn't find this inappropriate until I woke up. Then I was squicked, cause these were people I know. But really, how often does someone have nekkid dreams that aren't embarassing or sexual?

But last night...that one takes the cake. Among the many dreams I wish I could forget upon waking, last night's is the one I most wish would go away.

Why is it you never forget the really, really disturbing ones but can't ever remember the nice ones?

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Kear's guide to Livejournal

May 17th, 2007 (10:36 am)

Sir, since you said you would check it and obviously have no idea what's what, here's a quick and dirty guide:

On the profile page:
Hopefuly you've found that clicking the journal name at the top of the page shows you my journal.
After the bio and the extra links I added, 'Interests' are what I've added that I'm interested in. They are rather old. You can search for other users by the interests they have listed.
'Friends' is a link to my Friends Page, which is all the most recent updates from the other journals or communities I watch.
'Community' is a like a journal, but several people post to it. That was a bit self-explainatory, wasn't it? Hm.

On the Journal:
The icon with the little speech-ballon will show you comments other people left for me.
The icon with the little blue pencil lets someone leave a comment on an entry.
The rest of the little icons are unimportant.
Stuff (in parenthasis) are links. On my computer they don't show up in a different color, so I don't know if they would on yours.
At the very bottom of the page 'back' shows older entries.

Fanfics are short (or long) stories that use the character and/or settings from a fandom and write a (semi-)orriginal story with them. They can be a page long or 100 chapters long and vary from utter crap to 'Wow, why doesn't this person write orriginal fiction?' I write mostly fanfics, and most of those from the Animorphs fandom.

Sue is short for Mary-Sue, the worst thing you can have in a fanfic. Sues are generally defined as an orriginal character who is 'too much.' Too perfect, too pretty, too plain, too special, too emo, too powerful, whatever. Those annoying characters who simply defy reality and yet everyone else in the story just loves them anyway. Canon characters can be 'Sue-ified' as well, and that's even more annoying.

RPG I'm sure you know, since you mentioned D&D, but I play LJ based fic-style RPGs which are somewhat different. More like a massive, group-written fanfic but you can only control your own character(s). Much fun until someone who has no idea how to spell tries to get in.

I think that's it from me.

_thelady_ [userpic]

Anime Goodness!

March 29th, 2007 (07:06 am)

So, everyone over here knows that I’m going to an anime convention when I get home. I’m not ashamed of my obsession, I just never really talk about myself, but since I had to get my leave dates changed in order to get home at the right time everyone heard about it. So, I’m getting all the normal banter and that’s cool cause if it wasn’t anime these guys would be teasing me for something else. And if not for something else then they’d make up a reason to tease me. S’okay, I’m learning how to dish it out meself. ^_^

And anywho, to the point of this post, the commander came in and was talking to me about it (one of his infrequent attempts to dupe the soldiers into thinking that he actually cares about us, whatever) and he basically asked me what it is about anime that I’m a fan of it, since I did manage to get across to him that anime has a myriad of genres. And…I couldn’t really articulate an answer. He left assuming I just like the art. Which I do, but that’s not what I was trying to say. And, as usual, I finally found my answer well after he’d already left. I’ve got to figure out how to figure out things while people are still around for me to tell it to them…

And the answer I decided on? Anime is fantasy. No, really. For me at least, anime is like reading a fantasy book, but with pretty pictures and sound effects. Much of the TV and movies over here in the US is either some kind of Tom Clancy novel, or sitcoms. Anime is the sci-fi/fantasy genre put into motion.

Now, obviously, there are exceptions. And I like the exceptions, too, but mostly because they are just good movies, not necessarily because they are anime. But, there, that’s my answer. Anyone else got a different one?

_thelady_ [userpic]

Grrrrrr....

March 4th, 2007 (02:27 am)

Okay, I get it. You're emo, that's nice.

Yes, I know you don't care what other people think about you and your whining.

Right, right. We get it. You don't give a shit about us, we know. You don't have to tell me that every time I make a comment. I'm trying to have a conversation, since you complain about no one talking to you and having no life and excetera, excetera and then you do nothing but tell me my thoughts have no importance what-so-ever in your mind.

So you know what? Maybe there's a reason no one talks to you. There's a reason I'm not going to anymore.

Bye bye.

[directed at someone who *I hope* doesn't read this journal. Since, you know...there's only like two of you who do...]

_thelady_ [userpic]

(no subject)

February 14th, 2007 (12:51 pm)

shinga, I blame you for this. It's all your fault. Completely and totaly. When I have a mental break-down and they ask me what happened, I'm going to tell them 'Shinga did it!'

'What did I do?' you are asking youself? Well, I'll tell you what you did. And you'll see how it's all your fault. Cause, see, if you hadn't 'SQEEED' over Heroes, if you hadn't drawn adorable Heroes fan-art and put Claire in HeadTrip, if you hadn't gone on and on and made me think hm, that must be a good show, then I never would have noticed the little bootleg set of episodes they were selling down at the haji shop. And I wouldn't have bought it. And watched it. And then I wouldn't be a mere six episodes into the gratest show EVER with no way to get the rest of them.

So, Shinga...yeah, you owe me some sanity.

_thelady_ [userpic]

I'm learning about me. huh...

February 11th, 2007 (03:56 pm)

I’m in this new RPG, and I’m learning all kinds of stuff about myself as I play.

~I am way too pleased with my own wit. Which is really sad when I’m not really all that witty. But it probably explains why I’m so pleased with myself when I ever do come up with something.

~I get jealous a wee bit too easily. After all, she’s a mod, she can make her character more important than mine if she wants. Even if it is completely unreasonable.

~When I don’t know what to say, but think it’s important still, I just end up saying way too much. I think this is a throw-back to the days when I wouldn’t know how to articulate important things and so wouldn’t say anything at all. Kind of did a 180 on that and really need to find a happy medium.

~I tend to forget that I am not the only person who ever has or is struggling with depression.

~Depressed people scare me. Like, they scare the hell out of me. In a way that makes me want to grab them and shake them until they listen to reason and stop being depressed. Even if the ‘person’ in question isn’t real. I guess this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but I need some approach other than “ZOMG! *shakes*” cause that approach doesn’t really work. But I don’t know what does work. Since I don’t really suggest what it took to get me to stop being depressed.

So! Wonder what I’ll learn about myself tomorrow...

Oh, and I know all you silly people who might read this don’t have time for RPs (silly people!) but if you know anyone who likes to RP and would like to play an Organization Thirteen Member (Kingdom Hearts: Chain of Memories) then please direct them to us. We have…6 out of 13 Member slots filled, and two of those are NPCs. kh_phantas

_thelady_ [userpic]

Shtuffs

January 31st, 2007 (02:43 pm)

Why not? I figured I could put in some stuff here stolen from my freind's page. That, and I was:

Tagged by alakazam17
Rules:
Each player of this game starts off with 10 weird things/habits/little known facts about yourself. People who get tagged need to write a blog of their own 10 weird habits/things/little known facts as well as state this rule clearly. At the end you need to choose 10 people to be tagged and list their names.

Who knew?Collapse )


SUPPOSEDLY if you've seen over 100 movies, you have no life. Mark the ones you've seen. There are 169 movies on this list. Put your score in header and repost:
It's not my fault!Collapse )

_thelady_ [userpic]

(no subject)

January 30th, 2007 (02:14 pm)

My work ethic is in question.

Well, okay, let’s be honest, I’ve known I was just squeaking by since we got here. And that I’ve done that all the time I’ve been in the Army.

My work ethic sucks.

And now I’ve been called out on it. Somehow, I’m surprised it took someone this long to bring it up. I’m just not a proactive person, I guess. Unless it’s something I want to be proactive on… Damn, I should want to be proactive on catching bad guys, shouldn’t I? I do. I hate these bastards.

What’s wrong with me? I’ll try. I’ll sit in front of that computer and think ‘I’m going to do something tonight’ and then I have no idea what to do. I really don’t. “You need to ask questions,” Orr tells me. “People aren’t going to always just come up and tell you what’s going on.”

Alright, bitches, then how about you answer me when I ask you what’s going on? I miss out on what goes on in the day and then when I want people to bring me up to speed the only answer I get is ‘nothing.’ I ask questions and get the evil eye from people. Or, I’m so completely out of the loop that I don’t know I need to ask about something. That last one happens most often.

I don’t like being me. I suck. I’m stupid. However smart I am, I’m still stupid. And I’m lazy.

Where do I start fixing that? Self-help books are crap. Mental Health is not confidential.

But one thing I can’t figure out is what brought this particular issue up. Orr said it’s from the guys in Hawijah about something that happened last night. That I was up to speed on and I don’t get what they thought I didn’t know about it.

Which doesn’t change the fact that I’ve once again reverted to seeing myself as a great putrid ball of wasted flesh and space.

I really need a friend over here. Orr is…less than friendly. I’m really sick of her evil eye looks. I’m getting to be just sick of her period. I’m glad she’s leaving once we get back to Hawaii. I think. I don’t get her.

I don’t get much, I guess.

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